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writes:is it normal that my guy says "f_cker" while we were doing oral sex? i feel very uncomfortable to hear that. its sounds like im a prostitute..so i wonder is it normal to a guy say that to his true lover?? thanks for help!!
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reader, Karlos Omnis  +, writes (25 October 2007):
 You should be pleased that you're doing such a grand job that he can't control himself.
Mention it to him and hope that he can apply it when required.
I know I should have more of an accurate answer but I'm lucky if my girlfriend agrees to missionary sex let alone anything else.
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reader, eddie +, writes (25 October 2007):
 It probably just turns him on to talk a little dirty. There's nothing wrong with it except....his partner, you, don't like it. So if he's trying to make the event more sexy and he's actually doing the opposite, talk to him. I'm sure he'd rather not make you uncomfortable. If I was doing something erotic and my partner liked it, I want to know if they didn't really enjoy it. I would be embarrassed if I found out later they were just "putting up" with me.
On the other hand, I also think people should be open minded in the bedroom and try new things. Some people say no to their partners ideas before they even try to consider them. For example, what he says to you during oral sex is a turn on for him. If he treats you respectfully outside the bedroom then I'd say he means nothing by his comments. It's just part of h is fantasy. You're the one he's with and you should be happy about that. If you take what he says with a grain of salt and realize you're actually giving him pleasure, maybe it will make you more comfortable. It takes an open mind to keep the sexual fires burning. That's good though when you have a partner you love. I'd like to add that I'm talking about sexual experimentation that is not physically harmful. If your husband wanted to try anal sex and you found it hurt, then stop. Generally though I think couples should try almost anything they like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Just talk to him and let him know that you didnt like it. Some blokes find it a turn on to shout things like that, so dont feel like you have to put up with it. If you dont like anything then shout like hell!!!!
take care
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reader, flower girl +, writes (25 October 2007):
 Tell him that you feel uncomfortable with him saying this, it is possible that he means nothing by it.
If you are really comfortable with someone in the bedroom you often say what you really want he may not realise it actually affends you.
Take care.xx.
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reader, jowin75 +, writes (25 October 2007):
 hi a lot of guys can say things like that when they are at a point when they are out of control,
it just means he is really enjoying it,
if you relly dont like it tell him as he probably doesnt know its upsetting you,
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