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writes:My husband is a great guy. He is very Affectionate but.. I wonder sometimesIf he could be gay, he is overly concernedWith his looks and cleanliness, hatesTo get dirty. When we have sex, he onlyWants to orgasm when he enters me fromBehind. He hates giving me oral sex, and rarelyTouches my vagina. He does say he lovesMy breasts but most of the time I feelUnattractive and dirty and it hurts my feelingsThat things are so one sided. I have beenMarried before and in another intimateRelationship and both men loved my bodyTouched me everywhere and oral sex wasA regular part of our relationship.my marriageIs great, but sometimes I feel likeSomething is just not right. He also can'tWait to clean up and dress afterwards..Am I making too much of this?
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Liking things clean really has nothing to do with sexual preference. I can see that his obsession with cleanliness is bothering you. Most people get annoyed with other peoples obsessions. His is interfering so much in your lives as to make incompatible sexually. By incompatible, I mean that you can not be fully satisfied with him sexually.
I think if he wants to have a happy wife and home he needs to relax and be more accepting. If he can do it. I don't know how you can be satisfied when he makes you feel unclean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): This doesn't mean he's gay. Everybody's an individual so we all like different things. I guess that's just what he likes.
The only way to get a straight answer is to talk to him about this.
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reader, mrvhappy  +, writes (30 September 2010):
Hi,
Diff to determine if he is gay.When you say he enters you from behind...do you mean anal sex?.
Alot of guys dont like to give thier partner oral sex. He may have OCD...or just be very clean or both. He could be effeminate..difficult to say without more information.
Why dont you ask him why he doesnt touch your vagina. Maybe hes shy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): He may not be gay but he doesn't sound like a man. Next time he gets a check up, cholesterol test, etc ask Dr to also check testosterone levels. A man should be thinking about va ja jays 24x7.
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (30 September 2010):
 I dont know if he is gay. I dont think anyone here could tell you that. I do think if your intuition tells you there is something off then generally it is. You really need to talk to him and find out what is going on. Good luck.
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