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writes:i have just turnt 18, my boyfriend is 25. i have recently found out i am pregnant...at the time i was shocked but ok about it. my boyfriend said he aint going to touch drink while im pregnant, but there he is already going round his mates for a drink, while im round my sisters. this is the first time hes been out with his mates in ages, but he still drinks most days and i just dont know if i can handle him doing that all the time, im really emotional lately and moody, do you think im over-reacting. he said im stuck with him for life now im pregnant, now i think he thinks he can do what ever he likes because im pregnant and he thinks i cant leave him because of it. my hormones are all over the place lately but im just so annoyed at him. do i have the right to be or is it just me? and do you just have some advice for me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno he just made that promise himself saying that he wouldnt drink, i never asked him not to drink.
things have slightly got out of hand, we have been arguing and it makes me feel stressed and upset, if it carries on i could lose my baby, thats all im worried about. i love him and he loves me, we dont argue all the time but we have done alot over the past 3 weeks, and he said its my fault because i never show him my feelings, i never do this, i never do that... he hurt me saying all the that. i have been snappy but hes making me out to be so bad.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 April 2010):
No, you're not overreacting, but remember you're not with him for life. There is no point in being with this guy if he won't make a good boyfriend and father. And tell him just that.
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reader, lautnerlove  +, writes (10 April 2010):
 no you dont have to put up with his crapo.Tell him to start acting resnobly or your gone
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (10 April 2010):
 Well dear since you didn't use birth control (or didn't use it properly) and are now pregnant you are essentially "stuck" with this guy for at least the next 18 years (unless you don't have child support laws like we do here in the US). That being said, did you not consider this guy's drinking habits and how they annoy you before so carelessly getting pregnant? Did you think that a pregnancy was going to "magically" erase the man that he really is?
I am curious - Why did he say he would not touch a drink while you were pregnant? Is this some sort of promise that you extracted from him? What does he say when you call him on it?
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