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writes:well basically i used to be like really emo/goth in how i look and i liked this guy that wasnt and after telling him i liked him and him saying he didnt feel the same way back i kinda stopped talking to him for about a year, duing this time i changed a lot (not for him i just changed) and i began to like a lot of pink and girly things and i dyed my hair from black to blonde, the other day he tryed getting back in contact with me so we met up and i and i was wearing a pink dress white shoes white sun glasses and i had painted my nails pink and was wearing light make-up and a pink watch , when i saw him i realised i still liked him but i thought he probably still wouldnt like me back because my personalitly hasn't changed really, at first he was just being nice saying how different i looked then he said he liked me and tried to kiss me so my question is... does he only like me because of how i look because all thats changed ?? thank you xx Reply to this Question
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reader, MissKin +, writes (24 July 2010):
 It's not JUST how you look. Appearance is important, and some people find it hard to approach people of certain attitudes. Wearing goth/emo clothes usually translates to people as meaning you're a less than bubbly person, and you sound very bubbly now considering what you like and what you wear, and that has probably attracted him. Get to know him. don't straight off accuse him of being shallow. Just be glad that how YOU chose to look is liked by other people, and even if it isn't you like being this way and that's what matters.
Would you have been interested in him if all he ever wore was tight shorts and a fluffy red coat? :P not that there's anything wrong with either of those things, i just wouldn't be attracted to somebody who dressed in such an abstract way all the time. I wouldn't even approach them... trying to enhance my point :P its late so sorry if im failing.
Anyway, i think he's genuinely interested in you, just don't move too fast, don't do anything you're not comfortable with and see how he makes you feel :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): Ah, these things take time. He maybe just likes you because your you. He did want to meet you after all! And I'd take that as a good sign!
Well he's fond of you, so what difference does it make!
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 its possible that he is shallow and only likes you for what you look like.
OR
maybe what you wear now compliments your features more then wearing goth/emo attire had. Which too is somewhat shallow, but guys are visual creatures.
Perhaps him noticing you now does make him shallow but it also allows him to really get to know you, being as he might have been put off by your old attire not to want to get to know you, if that makes any sense.
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reader, Flyguymyeye +, writes (24 July 2010):
I would say the change in look has had an effect, and maybe how you looked before put him off.
Physical attraction is important, if you like him too just see where it goes.
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