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writes:Should I be worried that I found porn in my boyfriendds things? I've been living with my boyfriend for almost two years now. I feel like we have a pretty great realationship it has it's ups and downs just like everyone else. I was cleaning our spare bedroom today when a DVD falls out of a book. It's some sort of nasty porn DVD. I'm not gonna lie, I popped it in to see what it was, and it was really gross.I suffer from anxiety and OCD, so our sex life has gone down hill a little (1-2 times a week) not to mention we've been living together for two years. I really do love him more than anything, and I find him adorably atractive, but because of the OCD I can't help but feel like I need to be vacuming or cleaning rather than enjoying sex with my boyfriend :( Do I need to worry that I found a hidden porn DVD? Or is it just my insecurity that is making me nervous?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot! Sometimes, I guess it just takes a stranger to tell you something you already know you should do :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): No matter what all men love porn! They could be gettin sex twice a day and they would still watch it!
I dont think it has anything to do with your OCD, if it was such a big problem to him he wouldn't be with you. He obviously loves you and you love him! Try watching the porn with him! Porn isnt a big deal men are grown up watching it and will probably be doing the same until they are 70yrs old! Lol
Good luck hun!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 October 2007):
 Many women come to this site to ask for advice on porn. I have noticed that many of them feel that their males will think less of them because they will inevitably compare them unfavourably to the women they see on the screen, or the magazine, or whatever. I think this is your case. A woman I know complained that she didn't like her husband to watch porn because he would return home wanting to do things she didn't like.
I'm a male, so I think you should not worry about the DVD. I don't think he believes your worth is any less. I'm sure that, unless he's an addict, he won't take that porn seriously. However, since it bothers you, you have every right to tell him how you feel about it and ask him to give up the porn.
Take care.
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reader, ladysuzanna  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 if he has the wondering eye yes i think i start to worry a little if a man loves a woman he see no other woman if he looking it could means his mind is else where keep a eye on him from a distance when you go out with him good luck
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reader, Charley x  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 Well darlin to be honest with you all men watch porn its manly hood just let him do his thing you have nothing to worry about thats someone on the telly but you are his real life fantasy and he probly loves you to peices
Dont hesitate to contact me if needed.
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