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writes: Is it common for a woman to go through a period of promiscuity/sexual experimentation in her young adult life. My girlfriend of six months told me she had been with 5 guys in six months her senior year of college. The last one she dated for 6 years and before those 5 guys she had only been with one other person (for two years) So she while she has only been with six fellows, almost all of her activity was in a concentrated period of time. i don't really want to broach the subject with her because I don't want to seem judgmental or to punish her for her honesty and candor in the matter so this forum is really my only source of insight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): If people could just decide not to care about their partner's history and actually have that work, none of these threads would be here.
You might as well be asking someone to just decide not to hurt over their partner cheating in the present day. It's logically a different situation but it's emotionally similar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009):
Thank you all for responding to my question so quickly and thoughtfully.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (26 September 2009):
 It's perfectly normal and p.s. men do the same. The good thing that comes out of this behavior is that she doesn't have to "wonder" what else is out there once she finds Mr. Right and settles down. The worst thing a woman can do is live a sexually sheltered life and then get married young. Those women will almost always have an "unraveling" at some point and cheat on their spouses, or file for divorce. Now that she's gone through her "wild phase" she will probably be stable and faithful from here on out. I hope that puts your mind at ease.
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reader, samurai girl +, writes (26 September 2009):
 Honestly, I don't know why she would have told you this because this information leads to this kind of problem with a man.
Why is it important if it's normal or not? If you love her and want to be with her...does it really bother you that much? The only thing you and she are obligated to inform each other of is STDs.
Just let this go and enjoy being with the woman you love. Don't waste more time thinking about this because you're going to obsess about it and make yourself very unhappy.
Let it go. Good luck :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): The old sexual double standard again.
However, not all men see it as promiscuous, some just accept it's their "learning curve" with regards to sex and relationships.
Don't know if everyone will agree with me on this, but that's my take on it.
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (26 September 2009):
You're right about a woman going through promiscuity and experimenting in college, not every women in college does this. I think that I am going though this right now, its not that I don't want a relationship, its just I see someone off and on and this its over. Usually its just a phase that eventually dies out.
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reader, Candleman +, writes (25 September 2009):
 Sure is very normal. Especially in college. Look at it this way. It's better she did it then and not have the curiousity gnawing at her while she's with you.
This might help as well. I went to answer bag and your gf in very low in numbers compared to what is provided there...
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/67216
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reader, slen  +, writes (25 September 2009):
 i used to think like u, then my girlfreinds laughed at what a prude i was. in a short space of time i slept with a number of men as all my friends were doin it. its done now when i look back i wish i hadnt but i cant turn back time, so i have learnt from my experience i have only been with 2 people since i was in long term elationships with both. dont judge her all her mate were prob doin it, some girls think it is normal. it all depends on a persons personal opinion. hope this helps xx
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reader, kathy255 +, writes (25 September 2009):
Yes. There are many young adult women who do this especially after a long term relationship. They feel sometimes that they need to experience certain things before they settle down. If they settle to soon they may never get that chance.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (25 September 2009):
Yes, a lot of women including myself have gone through phases like that, especially after a long term relationship. Judging her on her past=no good, she told you in confidence, so you can't hold it against her. And maybe to even make you feel slightly better, 5 guys in a 6-month period--that's not even that bad for going through a phase like that; I've known way worse...more like 5 guys a month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009):
I think at least a medium percent of girls do it but it's not universal by any means.
If a girl does it because "everyone else is doing it" then she has been spending her time with a trashy group of friends IMO.
Same goes for men. We all know some men are sluts, but that's not an excuse to assume it's normal for most guys either.
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