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writes:Ohkkay im 16 and my boyfriend wants meh too have sex. I have to say i wanna too buhh he will be my first and im really scared too? Is that bad? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): Don't do it. Don't buy into what society tells you to do. You are too young.
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reader, auntyR  +, writes (24 February 2011):
you know when i think back to when i was younger and when i lost my virginity, i really wish there was someone who could of told me what to expect, rather then just USE A CONDOM talk.
So yeah it is completely normal to feel scared and abit anxious. But take my advice and ignore what your boyfriend wants you to do and make sure that it is what you want! Don't ever feel pressured into it. You will regret it if you know deep down your not ready. But if you are then go for it.
Make sure he gives u lots of foreplay and that you are relaxed. Expect it to sting a little and remember you can always ask him to stop if it gets too much. I'd stick to something like the missionary posistion or the spooning posistion. Don;t try and be a cow girl on your first go. just relax and enjoy. Remember the second or third time you have sex will be much more enjoyable, so don;t be put off from the first time if you find it painful or if you bleed a little.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 February 2011):
 If you are really scared maybe you are not really ready...
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (24 February 2011):
 You know what you are young, but we were all young once and most of us forget what it feels like to be young. If you want to have sex with your bf and you feel like it's right for you, then good for you. 16 is the age of consent in most states.
It's totally normal to be scared about the first time you have sex, I was eighteen and terrified out of my mind ( i was totally let down though). It's a new experience and the unknown is scary.
I really regretted my first time, because I was in a rush to fit in and I didn't wait for the one that I love, really love. I'm not trying to tell you what to do. I'm just saying if you want to wait then wait, don't let your bf pressure you into anything. Love is patient and if it's real love that's meant to last it will wait until you are both ready.
Good luck and be sure to use protection, pregnancy before you're ready is a doozy.
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reader, ClearEyes +, writes (24 February 2011):
Totally normal to worry just use protection. BE SURE to read the instructions for the condoms (leaving a little bit of space at the top to prevent breakage)
Contrary to what the last few answers have told you, 16 is, statistically speaking, not too young. Most people in the Western world lose their virginities between the ages of 15-18. Google it, read studies, its totally not too young.
Now whether or not your mature and responsible enough to handle it is a totally different story, but aunt's on this site have no way of judging that.
You said its your first, is it his first too? If its not his first, and hes only 16, he may be trying to take advantage of you. Make sure you really mean a lot to each other because the 1st partner is always a big deal.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (24 February 2011):
Worrying is completely normal and healthy. Before you get into it talk to a doctor or an adult you trust to get advice on how to take care of you and your boyfriend. Just in case: yes he MUST wear a condom even if he's virgin. Under no circumstances condoms can be left out of this. The condom has a limit date and has shouldn't be damaged.As for RoseA hint I agree you are too young to have sex. You have plenty of time for doing it. But there is no way to know if you will regret losing your virginity to him, or if you will regret not having done that in case you actually chose to wait. If you are in love and you want to, and you take care of you, I don't see any problem. As long as both of you are of legal age for your state/country.
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reader, RoseA  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Do you mean you want to lose your virginity to him?
If that what you ment, Then i think its still too early to have sex with him when your 16, If you love him, and what to show some love, You can make-out with him, But do not get soo into it, ..
Im 17 , And im still virgin, But i do love my boyfriend, We have been together for years, ... But we just make-out, And i think it is much better than doing it all.
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reader, RoseA +, writes (24 February 2011):
Do you mean you want to lose your virginity to him? If that what you ment, Then i think its still too early to have sex with him when your 16, If you love him, and what to show some love, You can make-out with him, But do not get soo into it, ..Im 17 , And im still virgin, But i do love my boyfriend, We have been together for years, ... But we just make-out, And i think it is much better than doing it all.
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reader, unabletofly  +, writes (24 February 2011):
Protect yourself from being pregnant.He will be your first then oneday you will breake up.He will be one who slept with you.For pain do not afraid, for bleeding do not afraid, for self confidence do not afraid boys like woman who seem so innocent at bed.But i suggest you not to enter bed with a man before you become an adult.
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reader, Eilish +, writes (24 February 2011):
 This isn't bad don't worry it's completely normal. Showing your bodies & exploring them is a new & big step. You just have to make sure you are ready.xxx
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