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writes:me and my bf r both 15 and he said he might have an std [he has a bad rash ]. and he didnt get it from me becuz we have never had any contact like that exept kissing.) and he told me he hasnt had sex in almost a year and he is rlly anxius. then he told me if u have intercurse in a clorine filled pool u dnt have 2 use a condom and u cnt get pregnant or get a dease. should i do it
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reader, baby1moretime +, writes (11 April 2011):
Hello,
I know that you are scared now, but you need to tell someone, he basically raped you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): If this is really what happened, then it sounds awfully like he's had sex with you without your consent. I really think you should speak to someone you trust - a parent, teacher or friend maybe - to get some proper help.
You should also take the morning after pill and see a doctor to get checked out. Better safe than sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlast nite after i told him i want 2 B just frans ( he seemed cool with it). after we watched a movie i fell asleep i woke up and there was alot of pressure down "there" so i moved a lil bit + he layd down next 2 me like he was sleeping. so i pretended 2 B asleep then he lubricated my vagina, did it 4 about 3 min non stop til he got soft then wiped the extra cum. ( it hurt alot). he didnt have a condom on wat should i do?
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reader, ClearEyes +, writes (5 April 2011):
In no way am I saying have sex with him, you should wait a good while and his pool thing, while making sense to a 15 year old, is totally wrong. Yes chlorine would kill most sperm and microbes BUT the chlorine can seriously damage his penis and your vagina, along with the sex being uncomfortable and burny. A public pool would be the equivalent of banging in a sewage dump, that is totally out of the question.
Sorry for being a voice of reason, but the incubation period for all major STD's is as follows
Chancroid- A treatable bacterial infection that causes painful sores. Incubation Period: 12 hours to 5 days.
Chlamydia- Much chlamydial infection goes undiagnosed, because the infection is often without symptoms. However, it can cause vaginal bleeding and discharge, abdominal pain, fever and inflammation of the cervix in women. And in men, it can cause a watery or milky discharge from the penis, swollen or tender testicles and a burning feeling while urinating. A treatable bacterial infection of the prostate, urethra & female pelvis. Incubation period 7 to 21 days.
Crabs (Lice) Parasites or bugs that live on the pubic hair in the genital area. Incubation period. As long as a week if it's the first time you've had pubic lice; as little as a day if this is a recurrence.
Gonorrhea-Incubation period 1 to 14 days. A treatable bacterial infection of the penis, vagina or anus, "the clap”. Males experience a discharge from the urethra. Women are particularly vulnerable to this asymptomatic form of the disease.
Hepatitis A disease that affects the liver. There are 5 types. Hepatitis-Incubation Period: Two weeks to five months, although hepatitis C can remain dormant for 10 years before symptoms crop up.
Herpes simplex-- Incubation Period: Anywhere from five to twenty days. Symptoms include small blisters in the genital area which rapidly break down to leave painful ulcers. Other symptoms include pain or difficulty in passing urine. Some patients may develop headache and fever. Herpes infection during late pregnancy is potentially dangerous to the baby during labour. Herpes is a life-long chronic condition which cannot be cured. Viral infection recurs causing blisters (anus, vagina, penis).
HIV / AIDS A viral infection of the immune system. Incubation Period: Some people develop symptoms shortly after being infected, but for many it takes more than ten years for symptoms to appear.
HPV / Warts - Incubation Period: Anywhere from one month to several years. A viral infection of the skin in the genital area & female's cervix. Warts are found on or around the penis, anus or vagina. They are small lumps which have an irregular cauliflower-like surface.
Scabies A treatable skin disease that is caused by a parasite. Incubation Period:As long as a week if it's the first time you've been infested; a day if it's a recurrence.
Syphilis- Incubation Period: One week to three months. A treatable bacterial infection affecting genitals, heart, & nerves. The symptoms of syphilis are less specific. Though the illness usually begins with one or more painless but highly infectious sores appearing anywhere on the body (but usually at the site of infection) this is not always the case. The condition is especially significant in women in pregnancy where infection can cause miscarriage, still birth, or a damaged baby.
Trichomoniasis (STD) Incubation Period: If symptoms appear, it usually takes from 3 to 28 days for them to develop. A treatable bacterial infection of male urethra & female pelvis. A watery, greyish, yellowish, or greenish bubbly discharge (may become thicker). An unpleasant odor.
Pain and itching when urinating.
Most apparent after your period.
Yeast Infection- A treatable fungal infection of the vagina. White cottage cheese-like thick discharge, but no strong odor.
Swelling and pain around vulva.
Intense itching and burning.
Painful sexual intercourse.
Bacterial Vaginosis- Incubation period: Anywhere from 12 hours to five days. Vaginal infection. Fluids may be foamy or frothy (heavier than usual)
A white, gray or yellowish vaginal discharge.
A fishy odor that is strongest after sex or after washing with soap.
Itching and burning.
Slight redness and swelling of the vagina and vulva
Yeast infection in Men- Incubation Period: Anywhere from 12 hours to five days A treatable fungal infection of the tip of the penis, called balanitis
Source(s):
http://www.std-gov.org/
If he hasn't had sex in a year,(Obviously he could be lying, Im just going off things based off him being truthful) its unlikely he has anything besides herpes or warts, but the symptoms you describe doesn't exactly sound like herpes.
When I was 15 I got a really really bad rash on my crotch that lasts for a solid 5 days, and still do, I get it from shaving my pubic hairs and I'm pretty sure its not from a bacteria virus or parasite.
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reader, baby1moretime +, writes (5 April 2011):
NEVER have sex with anyone with rashes, itching, burning symptoms!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): If you don't know the answer to this question OP then you're not ready for sex. Seriously you know so little at the moment that you're going to be one of these girls that appears on 16 and pregnant or get some life changing STI.
Get educated on safe sex first. Talk to your parents or someone who can educate you. Your boyfriend hasn't got a clue what he's talking about.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 The pool thing is an urban legend,- he needs to see a doctor.
Not all genital rashes come from STDs. It may be a contact dermatitis ( allergic reaction ) , it maybe be a fungus infection, for instance. Anyway, he needs to see the doctor.
Oh btw - you guys should NOT have sex, you are under age.
And you sound too clueless for efficiently preventing unplanned pregnancies.
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Your boyfriend is definitely talking out of his ass. You can get pregnant AND STDs while in the swimming pool. Unless you want to risk spending the rest of your life with a disease, I would suggest not having sex with him until he gets his rash checked out by a doctor. Be sure to go with him so you know he's telling the truth, since obviously he has a slight history of telling you completely untrue things to get what he wants.
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reader, heartache112  +, writes (5 April 2011):
Do not have sex wether its with a condom or not ... you dont want to risk what ever it is he has... Tell him to see a doctor ASAP!
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