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writes:So I've been dating this girl for a month and everything has gone really well. Nothing i can think of could turn our relationship bad. Shes always laughing and smiling when shes around me. We normally have lunch dates together, and then we go to class. Tuesday at lunch I asked her if she wanted to go home early instead of sticking to our plans to have hot chocolate because she wasn't feeling well, but she insisted on going, so we went. Normally when we walk outside she claims shes cold, but I wanted to take this one slow so i just usually said something to make her feel better and brushed it off. While we were walking outside Tuesday about to go for hot chocolate i decided to feel her forehead to see if she had a temperature. She didn't but claimed she was a little hot. Here I decided to make her feel better by holding her hand. (I haven't held hands with her yet). I asked like this: "Here, let me see your hand." (She didn't realized what i was doing until i was about to grab her hand. She got the message and happily linked fingers with me.) i then asked her if that made her feel better and she said yes. So we went off for hot chocolate and I walked her to her train near the end of the date. We then decided to have dinner Friday night after she gets out of work. After deciding that, she told me to text her. I waited 15 minutes later, and text her "Hey, I miss you already haha" and she loved it. I called her Wednesday night to see how her day was and how she was feeling. She told me she had taken a half day off of work and doesn't feel very well, but she was still going to school on Thursday. So Thursday morning I decided to wake up early and go get her a little something to cheer her up. I got her a bag with her favorite cereal, a stuffed animal, a get well card all wrapped in purple tissue paper. (her favorite color is purple). I then waited and texted her when i reached our normal meeting spot, but 10 minutes into waiting, i got a text telling me that she just woke up and didn't come to school. I told her it was fine and I went to drop off my little gift to her work place. Later that night she told me she had gotten my gift because her mom had came back from a business trip and stopped by the office. (she works for her mom). She told me she loved it. It was getting late so I told her to keep warm and sweet dreams, and that i would text her tomorrow. The next day i started texting her in the morning and i got my last text around 1pm. She stopped texting so i stopped also. Around 5 o'clock I texted her saying "hey, if your not feeling well enough for dinner tonight its ok. I'm not going to be mad. Trust me, there will be more dates :) " There was no response, so I called her around 7:30 since she gets out of work around 7. She didn't pick up. So I just waited for her response that night, but there was none. Saturday, I texted her to see what she was up to, and there was also no response. I guess it was kind of my fault, because we haven't brought up dinner for friday since tuesday, and we didn't exactly tell ear other where to meet or what time. I haven't heard from her since Friday, so I'm a bit worried. She took a half day tuesday so im thinking she probably took a half day friday and went home to sleep. (I don't think people go to the doctors because they don't feel well unless is the flu or something.) But, since I didn't meet up with her Friday, I don't want her to think I ditched her. Its now Monday evening, and I haven't heard back from her. Her phone tells me "Hi the person you have reached is currently unavailable and her messages are full. Please try again later." I know there shouldn't be anything to worry about, but its just that I actually care about her. I was wondering if the community could give me some insight. We're both in college and I think shes a little older than me.Thank you in advance. All responses are greatly appreciated.
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reader, deadlywhat +, writes (5 April 2011):
deadlywhat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys, here phone died and she went to the cape without her charger and didn't get back till monday. Thanks for the supportive responses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): Dude props to you big time for being a real nice guy! Hell yes! This is terrific!
Many things are possible man! Too many variables! However, Id say overall you have nothing to worry about as she has shown a great interest. If you dont hear from her soon, go to her house and check on her at a time you think she might be there. Also, as an alternative, if you can contact her mother thatd be good too and just ask for her whereabouts and that youre concerned... this shows the mom you care about her daughter and earns you more points than you can believe lol. Youre in good here man. Youre alrite. Best on this.
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Well if that's the case, I'd give it a couple days. If she hasn't contacted you by Wednesday you should visit her in person, maybe find her at school or visit her home, and tell her you've been worried about her. Bring her chocolate, that makes every lady happy.
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reader, deadlywhat +, writes (5 April 2011):
deadlywhat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe dont see each other everyday. She only goes to school tuesday and thursday
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reader, deadlywhat +, writes (5 April 2011):
deadlywhat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionforgot to add im pretty sure shes the shy type.
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reader, deadlywhat +, writes (5 April 2011):
deadlywhat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh just some additional information. I don't text her and call her like crazy. I've called once and texted twice in 4 days. Thanks for the responses so far. Alot of this believe it or not is comforting me. I'm just worried cause i do alot of other things, but i just don't want her to think i've just forgotten about her
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): It sounds like she likes you. It also sounds like you are making your life all about her. It's great to be sweet and nice, but do you do anything else?
Give her some time. If she's truly sick, her phone might be silenced, and she might just stay in bed, sleeping or resting. Maybe her phone message box is full from your texts, or maybe her phone is broken and she doesn't know yet.
I would send her a text the way Yetilicious worded it; that puts the ball in her court. She can contact you or not, but she knows you aren't going to text her again. Then, you can't text her until she responds to you!
I think she'll text back when she's feeling better! Sounds like she's interested in you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): Sorry this happened to you, I know how anxious one can get when waiting for responses and receiving none...I would say, judging from what I have gathered, that she is too interested in you to just call things off without notice... So I would say get that thought out of your head. Keep calm and don't overreact and just wait for her to contact you. Don't flood her inbox/voicemail either because there could actually be something wrong with her phone, or she may be in bed, getting better.All you can do now is wait.Tell us how things go!
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Hey :)I have experienced this, but not for such a long period... there could be some very legitimate reasons for her absence,1. she is actually really sick(maybe she has E.Coli or Pneumonia, i dont mean to scare you either friend)2. she lost her phone charger, or wasn't home when you called3. she might be trying to make you worry about her so she feels secure about it..4. she might be getting your messages and just playing with you to make you want her more(it is said that absence makes the heart grow fonder)in all honesty, if this persists tomorrow or the next day, go to her house and check up on her, bring her something she will love.. by what you said you guys do and how she loves everything you do, and she has no reason to not talk to your etc. then you have nothing to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): Well you both are in college together so see if she shows up at school or class or around campus this week. I mean you know her schedule ya? So see if you see her around. My guess is that she is probably really sick. Maybe she got strep and can't talk. Not sure why she woudn't just text in that instance but I wouldn't worry about it too much. Obviously she likes you. Give it a couple more days I bet she will get in touch. If she hasn't gotten in touch by Wednesday try stopping by her office or something. Maybe asking her mom if she is ok. Best
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (5 April 2011):
Well, I think it's very wierd. I guess everyone is different, but if it were me and I really like a guy I wouldn't ever ignore his texts or phone calls. Once I had the flu and was pretty much puking my brains out, and I still feel up to responding to a text from a guy i really like. She shouldn't be mad at anything, after all you've made it obvious that you like her a lot. So, I'm not sure what her deal is. If she thought you ditched her and felt bad about it she should reply and tell you that. I don't want to put ideas in your head, because I may very well be completely wrong, but maybe you are being a little bit TOO available. Sometimes giving a girl too much attention can be a bad thing. I would suggest sending her a text like, "well, I haven't heard from you in a while. I hope you are okay and I would really enjoy hearing from you. I don't want to keep bothering you so I'll wait for you to contact me." That puts the texting and everything on HER. I hope everything works out. Let us know what happens!
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