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writes: A guy contacted me on line. We corresponded for about 3 weeks and the conversation was good. I asked if we could meet up and things kept getting in the way; first it was my family commitments, then it was extreme weather, then it was his work. He sent me a message yesterday saying he was going to delete his online profile because he wasn't ready to date, he explained he had just gotten out of a LTR, but he suggested that we could meet up as friends. He gave me his email if I wanted to contact him. I wrote him back and told him it was cool. But, I didn't ask to meet up since I had already asked before. I sincerely appreciate (and even like him more) because he told me. And to be honest, I was happy and relieved when I got his message. I'm also 2 months out of a relationship and was feeling incredibly anxious about meeting people. I put myself online to try to push myself.But now I'm wondering, do guys even befriend women they aren't interested in on some level? I always thought this was the case, right? Or his he nicely letting me down? Now I'm getting anxious about it again.Any ideas? Advice?Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice.
For what it's worth, I said I was less interested in having sex with a date than he claimed to be (judging from our profile questions).
I don't mind giving friendship a try, but I was thinking about it today and just wanted some insight.
Thanks again.
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reader, cheers  +, writes (8 September 2011):
 sort of an experienced guy.
He doesn't want to give you a wrong idea when meet up later that he's interested in you. That's why he says friends only.
It also reveals he might been in relationship before. He simply more cautious now. He's not ready and commit anything sooner.
A Hint he'll take longer time frm friendship to next level. Are you ready?
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (8 September 2011):
You really just have to ask him. And sometimes guys, not unlike women, want to play the friend card so they can get to know you well enough to see if anything else is there.
Would just being friends be OK with you? If so, you don't have anything to worry about. You will know in time if he is just brushing you off, but probably not.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 September 2011):
 WE guys always hold out hope that we can get a woman to put out if we can just keep her talking - hence, interested......
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2011): it's hard to say why he did this. He may need more time to recover and sincerely just wants to hang around together. most men do want more than that though, and if I make it clear I'm not having sex with them they disappear rapidly and move on to someone who wants that, it's a good way of eliminating people who aren't serious about a relationship with you.
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