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writes:Ok so heres the deal, b4 i tell you my story i have to say that my situation has a twist. Its not a black or white story. Ok so it all started a few months ago, i found out my boyfriend was talking to this girl (who doesnt live anywhere near us) and the hole girl and guy-friendship-even-if-you-have-a-girlfriend-thing isnt a problem, i dont mind. But when it gets to the point were she's ``in love`` with your boyfriend, it pisses you off. At first they talked here and then it started being more frequently, he was texting in front of me (which is kinda disrespectful), and he hid the msgs from me. It pissed me off and i told him.I asked him if he could stop... and he said he would, but he kept on txting her in secret. Unlike many of the woman here, i didnt ``check`` his phone. I needed to tell my parents i wasnt going to be home for the evening, so i texted my dad (he wasnt answering phone calls). And i came accross their messages, he wasnt doing anything really bad. But she was asking if he could come and sleep over, blahblahblah. he turned her down but still... Then i really asked him to stop, he did. Now a simalar situation is happening, we started school, and only after a week of school he's become really familiar with this one girl. And for the past 2 days he cant txt me much, or call, or anything of that sort. Then today he says that we shouldnt b as ``clingy`` see our friends more often. he wants to talk to me but be free... i find thats perfecly reasonable. But when you find out that he texted this girl ALOT (more then with me) and that he webcamed with her, during those ``i cant`` days. I HATE IT! I miself wouldnt mind being friends with her, she seems nice. But im not introduced... Their in 3 out of 4 of their classes together. They sit together and my boyfriend forgets to meet up for lunch... He doesnt want to have lunch with me anymore and he wants to go with her. I get that he wants to see her, but its scaring me cuz its happened in a week. Ive told him so, and he gets mad at me and goes away.He seems very mean in those paragraphs, but b4 this, everythin was better. I have to say ive been threw really hard times; with surgeries and cancer, and basicly family problems. Hes been really suportive, and im not the kind to want pity. Ive been supportive with him too, helped him and stuff. and we are/were really happy. Were totally in love. He emotionally spoils me (compliments. And hes nice, a gentleman almost. I really need to know what i should to about this situation, i dont want to make a wrong step and screw r relashionship up! I also would really like to know what i should do about tht new girl. please help! ASAP please!PS. me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 yr and a half,iveknown him for 3. Also he was a player... but tht changed
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reader, skyleo  +, writes (23 September 2011):
Since you've known him and i think you have accepted him for who is he.Please i wish you could have that gentle soul to tolerate him with this his acts. But, try to be yourself, real person and overlook many wrongs of him, belive it, he would come back to his senses one day and appologise for all he has done to hurt you and he would love you more than your imagination.Bless you.
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reader, biamericana93  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 well once a player always a player but if you say thats changed then when the next time you guys are hanging out have a talk with him about how this new girl situation makes you feel. listen to what he has to say then think it over and if you trust him then it will be okay. if there is trust, honesty, and respect for eachother then it should be okay
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 September 2011):
 You would actually get more answers if you posted this as a question, not an article.
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reader, mistressmoon +, writes (10 September 2011):
give him the same treatment he is giving you. start hanging out with your friends and go to lunch with them instead of him(make sure your friend is male). since he cannot treat you the way you want to be treated treat him the way he is treating you. but, be prepared for his jealously, and insecurities to start showing. if things do not get better than you should weigh your options and decide if this relationship is worth all the stress you are suffering. remember your health is way more important than his feelings. you have to start putting yourself first. i know he is a wonderful person and all, but ask yourself is he being wonderful to you?
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