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writes:Dear Cupid,I love him, he's too perfect for me, but I can and will exist without him. I met him two years ago, he knocked me off my feet then left to go overseas. After a month of intoxicating deep emails, i visited him overseas. When we were face to face, he said he loved his ex and wanted to get things back on track with her. I stopped all communication with him. He got back together with his ex. But i never stopped loving him, and so I stupidly told him at the begginning of this year. He is still overseas with her, but our relationship is intense, sexy and obviously deceitful. He suggests we are going to be together, that he has feelings for me. Do you think he'll ever be with me? I know he's still with her but is there any chance he's confused about the way he feels about the two of us? I know if i push him to leave her he'll leave me - im strong, but i'll be losing my heart. Is there any chance i'll get what i want? Help~
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Nobody is perfect, and this man is living proof of it.
He didn't respect you at all when he wrote all those e-mail messages and let you travel. He was mean in telling you he loved his ex only after all that time. And he was cowardly in not being honest from the very start.
Now he is also cheating on the person he is with. He is giving you false hope: he suggests you might be together, but never says when; and then, from your post, if you pushed him to leave his current interest he would leave YOU. Which means that, in his eyes, she is more important than you.
He simply isn't Mr. Perfect. He won't even qualify for Mr. Right. This is a very bad man.
I know how you feel, but I think you're lucky that he's away. Forget about him. Find yourself someone who won't do to you the sort of things this man does.
Take much care and be strong.
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reader, Holz  +, writes (14 March 2008):
Hi,
He sounds to perfect, so perfect that its all a lie. If he didnt want to be with who he is with now he would be with you it sounds like he is enjoying the excitment of having someone run after him but also ahving a girlfriend at the same time. I think you should ask him whether he wants to be with you or her dont let him make you wait because you and i both know that he could be making you wait forever and then he could decide that actually yeah he is happy in the relationship he is in now and doesnt want anything more to happen between you. Ask him that and see what he replies honey dont wait for him because i can guarantee if it was the other way round he wouldnt be waitng for oyu would he?
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Hi! Oh my...
I am sorry to say this but he might be just using both of you - his gf and you. For some reason it suits him just fine having you waiting on him.
He might be perfect but he obviously doesn't love you (im sorry), because he doesn't care about your feelings. He is not 15 and inexperienced. He should know by now what he wants...and seems like he doesn't want to be with just one girl.
Do you really need this heartache? Leave him be, keep your head up and go get some real man who will want to be with JUST YOU. Because when you are with the right guy, you are the best for him. Let yourself be loved and see how it feels, even if you won't love your next guy, having someone who likes you more than you like them can seriously put your self esteem up. And the reason why I am talking about self esteem here is because you say he is too perfect for you. Thats not the right attitude - you should be equallly well suited for each other, then you both will appreciate each other. Am I making any sense?
It will be hard to let go I suppose, but try to look at other guys and maybe you will spot someone who will be just right for you :)
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