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writes:Hi I need your helpI met this guy back in September 2011 and I really do like him and we only got together in November 2011 but my problem with him is that I only ever hear from him when he is out with his friends and having afew drinks this is really annoying as I do like him Is he shy and only rings me when he has afew drinks for courage?? I have told him off over this behaviour Ive told him I do not like being treated this way he does not like being told off but yet he always does it my friends have told me to forget about him that he is only after one thing and is wasting my time Is he wasting my time??
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reader, person12345  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 It's not an issue of courage, you're definitely his booty call. He's not shy at all. His message is pretty clear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): Your his booty call
move on
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 February 2012):
 if he only calls when he's drunk he only wants one thing.
you are wasting your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): Tell him not to ring you when he's out drinking with his mates. It shows a lack of respect. He'll soon get the message that he can not treat you like that. If he then contacts you in normal ways, fine but otherwise don't bother with him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Yes you are .
He gets drunk, gets horny, and calls you at the end of the night. Shyness has got nothing to do with it.
You told him that his behaviour bothers you and you don't want him to act like that, not only he continues to do it, but also resents being " told off ".
He's just not that into you. Listen to your friends.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 February 2012):
 I agree with Cerberus.
If he was really interested in you he would call you and ask you out and actually "date" you, not just call you when drunk.
Stop answering his calls and move on.
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reader, alyssajanemccarton  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 Hey. Girl, are you sure that he even likes you? Or, is he really THAT SHY? 1) Maybe you should find out if he really likes you as much as you like him. If he doesn't, it's time to move on and forget him.Yet,2) If he's really that shy, maybe you should be more "aggressive" in a way. That's how it works in a r/s with a shy person; obviously in order to get things moving along the other has to be more "controlling" in a way. So, maybe it's time that you take matters into your own hands ;).Lastly,3) Why, oh WHY doesn't he listen to you? You told him that you hated being treated that way, yet he still does that to you. Things seem a bit... Contradictory.Right now, you have to focus on finding out if he really likes you, or just plans on using you. Then, follow the politically correct way of getting yourself out of the situation ;). Cheers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): "Is he shy and only rings me when he has afew drinks for courage??"
Nope, he's only interested in you when he's drunk and feeling a bit horny.
"Is he wasting my time??"
No, you're wasting your time. He's looking for an easy lay when he's drunk, you're the one who is keeping up this charade, he's made his intentions quite clear.
"Ive told him I do not like being treated this way he does not like being told off"
That's a deal breaker right there isn't it? You can't even communicate with this guy.
What's so special about this guy that you're willing to ignore your better judgement and the opinions of your friends and still be treated like a fuck doll by him? Why do you persist here OP, are you that desperate? Because you're acting desperate.
There are a whole host of deal breakers here and yet here you are, still wondering what you should do. I would have thought the choice would be easy.
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (8 February 2012):
 If your partner is remembers to call you only after a drink,then you are definitely hurting yourself by giving him the importance that you are giving him.Make it clear to him that you are not there to entertain him after his drinks...i think you should move on if he does not change his behaviour.
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