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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've being seeing this SWAT officer for over a year, it being a rollar coaster. I'm starting to think that his emotionally unavailable, his 40 years old with no kids, never being married. When we once started seeing each other everything was fine, until I ask him, were do we stand in the future, because there were other guys out there that are interested in me. His reply was "since there are other guys out there, I think that we shouldn't see each other again". After a 2 week of not talking to each other. he reappear, just to disappear for a couple of month without a trace, Now he reappear in my life, "He claim he disappear because he couldn't take verbal abuse and he felt like I had someone else"So he had to teach me a lesson. Everthing was going good up until a couple of days ago, Now his doesn't think we should see each other again. I'm confuse my this man, should I move on? It's he playing game with my heart? or just being vindictive? I know there isn't other woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): It seems to me that two people that are too old to be playing games are playing games. I don't know how long you were dating before you asked this question, but if you asked too soon that is a major turn off for a man. Then to make matters worse, you are going to tell him about other "men" if he doesn't want you. So in essence you really got what you deserve on that part. Now where he is wrong is the back and forth thing. Now either he wants to be with you or not. This magic trick of this disappearing and reappearing is childish as well. I think that both of you need to grow up and act like adults. I haven't experienced this type of behavior since like high school. Honestly, you two deserve each other. Such immaturity.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (4 October 2009):
Good for him calling your bluff. if you want to be with a man it is up to you to take strides to make him feel like he is the only man. You did exactly the opposite of that. this relationship is pretty much doomed unless he decides (foolishly at that)that he really loves you and can't live without you. Move on learn your lesson and leave him be.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 October 2009):
You asked him a perfectly good question about your future together, he then ended it without answering you and then blames it all on you? This guy isn't worth your time. Tell him that it's too late and move on and find a guy who is prepared to commit. This one won't, he will just play with you.
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