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anonymous
writes:Hi i really need a second opinion on this!I've met this guy thru a cousin of mine they work together. He's a really nice guy, clever and funny and we get on great for most part!at first i wasn't sure about him beacause he's not really my type but my type is usually the wrong type so i thought i'd give him a chance.However we've been seeing each other since March of this year and we've never talked about 'the relationship' or where we are going.i didn't want to bring it up because i didn't want to put any pressure on him.Couple of other things are bugging me on his facebook profile he's still listed as single!!i'm sure none of his friends know that he's seeing me and i've never met them and he's never even suggested it when i suggest that we meet up with mine he's not really keen and makes excuses. so basically what we do now is meet up once a week go to the cinema or dinner and almost alway s have sex.the sex is good but its just not enough from my perspective. i feel like he's treating me as a fuck buddy (excuse the language) until someone better comes along. i don't understad it i'm an attractive person always get lots of male attention when i'm about i'm highly educated and above all that i think i'm a good person and i deserve more??i'm gona try and talk to him today i just need someone else to tell me that i'm doing the right thing i talked to my mum and my brother and they agree!!Please help!!Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): Hey everyone thank you so much i got my courage up and i talked to him this evening he says the reasons behind his 'cautiousness' as he put it is because before us he was in a 6 year relationship with a girl they broke up last year and he just wants to take things slow and that he really likes me and enjoys my company!i'm gona think about it some more and see!!thank u again xxx
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 July 2010):
I do suspect that you're being used more for sex than anything else here. It's not like you spend much time together as a couple doing things that don't lead to sex. You go out to the cinema, where you don't really talk, then you have a meal, then you have sex, then it's another week before you really meet again. In 5 months you've not talked at all about where the relationship is going, you've not met his friends and he's still listed as single. The list is pretty long to be honest. You're right to talk to him about it. And don't think it's your fault. You can be the most beautiful woman on earth with all the brains, but if the guy you're with is a jerk, then he's a jerk. Don't beat yourself up. Talk to him, see what he says and see then if you want to continue with it.
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reader, kazz1 +, writes (30 July 2010):
 Hi, i read your artical and thought straight away that he is using you.
you have fair and valid reasons to raise the facebook matter with him but before you go charging into him you should start throwing questions at him to see his reaction.
things like......
when am i going to meet your friends?
i have changed my status on facebook have you?
and other teasing questions.
if you dont like his responses then rip into him.
thats just my opinion. hope it helps!
p.s
i just opened an account on here as i have an issue too and i see not many people post opinions on here so i would be eternally greatful if you could have a read and tell me what you think.
the title for my post is am i being used by a married woman? i just posted it so it should be on the site in an hour or two once it has been checked.
thank you anonomas (lol dont know your name)
and hope my advice has helped you.
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reader, cocoqueen88  +, writes (30 July 2010):
 yeah sound like you nee to just talk to him. if you want more and he's not feeling it then you need to find somebody who is.
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