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writes:Hey everyone, ive been talking to this guy since september last year and we have never met, we met on the site plenty of fish. Anyway ive always wanted to meet him but hes always busy saying working or hes a big football fan so going to football all the time. Anyway i was begining to get a bit peeded of with him so kinda not talking to him that much ... then out of nowwhere yesterday he wrote : you want the truth well hears the truth.... I like u alot and i do mean this, im scared of meeting u incase u dont like me:( but i really do want to meet u, you made me happy since we started talking. i havnt met anyone since we been talking cuz i want you, and yes i have been working or watching football when u have wanted to meet so i wasnt lieing if you dont belive me i want you. Then sent me another one saying love you Now i feel guilty as i didnt belive him And also what does everythik of this does he really like me or trying to keep in my good books Reply to this Question
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Sounds to me like he really is nervous about meeting you. I haven't met anyone online before but I imagine its strange to have an attraction to someone you haven't met.
Face-to-face is a different story.
I wouldn't feel guilty about not believing him. I think anyone would think the same. If I kept asking a girl out and she was busy every time, I would soon think she's stringing me along.
Why don't you ask him when he would like to meet in that case since he seems to be the busiest out of the 2 of you? Just reassure him and say we can just meet for a coffee/lunch or something? my advice is to meet either in the evening during the week or Sunday for lunch... in both cases if it went a bit funny after a couple of hours and you wanted to leave you could make your excuses about having work tomorrow?
If it's going well and you still like each other then you carry on as late as possible and next time maybe meet up on a Friday or Saturday and have all night to enjoy each others company?
I don't think he's trying to keep in your good books to be honest. What would be the point? You haven't met up yet? And if he kept cancelling or telling you he was busy you would soon lose interest and move on.
Sound to me like he really likes you but is scared you won't fancy him when you see him. Maybe he's shy around girls? Online it's easy to talk to anyone... Face-to-face it's different.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 he really means it or he wouldn't have taken the time to tell you that. honestly, he's probably feeling extremely insecure to meet you. after you've been in touch for the better half of a year, he's developed strong feelings and attachments to you. and he's scared that if you two meet, you'll lose that for him and change your mind. and then he'll lose you. it's easier for him to stay with you and keep the distance and maintain the anonymity. it's safe and comfortable for him.
he wants to meet you. and he really cares. he's just scared, that's all.
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reader, Jac2b55  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Mmmmm, hard one! If it was me i would move on... Im guessing he is either lying about himself eg. Age, gender etc.. Or he has got a girlfriend or married.
Perhaps he is telling the truth and it is a low self esteem, but then do u really want someone like that? Unless u r the kind of girl who is into 'saving people' or getting hurt MOVE ON...
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