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writes:ok venting time i hope they allow this because this is the only site there is to get answers and vent. so my husband you all know him the 48 year old that left me for a 24 year old, tells me today (i had to go get alimony, he wants to pay cash all the time, dont know why) anyway he tells me hes too old for his job,his degenerative back is killing him. he is looking for another one because he hasnt been getting anytime off, they are not paying him as much now they moved him from his position. everyone is sueing him, hes going to have to file bankruptcy. rents past due 2 months, car insurance etc... you get the point. he wants to split my aimony payments into 2 a month instead of just on the 15th. ok i agreed as long as i get it. he tells me hes finally getting a vacation and hes going to california, to the mtv music awards. says he won the trip all inclusive plus a limo to the awards. what i dont get if he is in such a bad way, why not put miss hotsy totsy to work. let her help support them, its like everytime i see him its boohoo me, but yet his a** is still living with her. i have a kind heart, and he knows it but part of me thinks hes bulls***ing me. it cant be all that bad, or could it. im tired of hearing how he misses me sometimes, and thinks of me, and wants to talk. but he dont want to lead me on. s**t or get off the pot, he knows i still love him, and im p***ed at myself for it. he doesn't deserve a lady like me. is he scared to tell her about his money problems? is he afraid to let her go out and get a job, because she might find some other sucker, thats where they met. he told me she is in love with him, so if this is the case than she should be only happy to help out. she get child support from the baby daddy and can put her in day care. or do you think hes got money and just wants me to feel sorry for him, so he can have the money he pays me. what do you all think. and yea i know im boo hooing too. hope this gets through.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 August 2012):
 Hmmm... i agree with Bondgrl you should have a record of the money... and secondly i dont think you should play into his games...he runs off with a younger woman and now he has all these problems and your supposed to feel sorry for him thats BS...
if i wanted to leave my wife have a way better plan... so i dont end up paying money...and looking like a jerk..
i understand him wanting to split the payment though..
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 August 2012):
 I want to bring out the tiniest violins...
Honey, get a lawyer, get your divorce and whatever the lawyer think is fitting.
I think he is trying to pull a fast one on you.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (17 August 2012):
 Don't buy his story. This is a typical "poor me" story. Too bad, he has created his situation and he should now deal with the consequences. I too would get in touch with your lawyer and see what he or she thinks about it. That is all I would tell you husband too..."I will talk with my lawyer and see what he says".
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2012): I would never accept money under the table like that in this case. If you do make receipts with the payment amount, date and you both sign it. It's messier this way if you do go back to court. Also, if he bankrupts at least in California he will still have to pay alimony.
He doesn't want his girlfriend to get a job because that means she can go find some other sugar daddy.
By the way I hope he already went on his trip because the MTV music awards was June 3rd this year.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (16 August 2012):
 Maybe you should consult a lawyer about what you are entitled to and how to go about receiving money due you.
Good luck!
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