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writes: My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years. For the most part it is okay but it is more comfortable than a real relationship. I understand that he needs to hang out with the guys sometimes but for a long time now he seems to be avoiding hanging out with me. He wont drink around me. He hangs out with his guys every weekend. Im always the one calling. He doesnt pick up his phone. He says he didnt hear it. Truthfully, his phone is a pos but it sounds like its more convenient not to pick up. When he does see me he tells me hes been busy and he'll make more time for me. This doesnt happen. I just want a unbiase opinion. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2006): Thank you all so much for your responses. I really appreciate the great advice. We have kept going round and round about this (I talk to him and he says hell make more time, then doesnt). I think its for the best for me to end it. I cant thank you all enough. Reading the responses made me realize I knew these things but was not looking clearly at the situation. Sometimes you just need to hear it from someone who doesnt know you.
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reader, sakic +, writes (19 March 2006):
Will since all your responses have been from females ill give yah a males point of view. All guys need time to spend with the guys, but when they start excluding their gfs altogether it usually means theres something up. I know for a fact when my buddies start to treat thie gfs like that, it usually means they are bored with them, or the relationship isnt going to last. my advice to u is to talk to your bf ..tell him how u feel if he says he will change and try to spend more time with you, give him one more shot, if the same thing happens, the relation ship is going no where babe, and its time to break it of, and the long run trust me it would make u happier
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (19 March 2006):
 Well if I'd been dating someone for three years and the relationship had got to the point yours has, with me having to put all the effort in to it, I think I'd start wondering where it was heading if anywhere!
Time to turn the tables and stop doing all the running, don't call him, don't always be avaiable when he wants to see you, and don't put up with his excuses.
If you don't contact him, see how long it takes him to contact you, it'll be hard, but it will show you how much the relationship means to him. Keep him guessing for a change and if you feel he isn't bothered, finish it and find someone who want to be with you!
Good luck.
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reader, kt +, writes (18 March 2006):
 all guys need time with friends, but when he sees more of them than with you, its proberly time to move on. a relationship can't last with a situation like yours. stop wasteing time with him and find someone who deserves you!
good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): Yep. Sounds like he has moved on. You should too. After three years together you should have an engagement ring on your finger instead of hearing excuses as to why he won't answer your calls. Lame excuses...the writing is on the walls. Read it and find someone who appreciates spending time with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2006): You've really got to have a talk with your b/f. You must tell him that his behaviour is upsetting you and his excuses just aren't good enough.Tell him that unless things change, your walking
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