A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My aunt introduced me to this guy that she works with, she thinks we'd be a perfect match. When i say introduced..i guess i dont really mean introduced. she told him to add me on facebook. we chatted for a while the first few days and exchanged phone numbers..he told me that he was extremely shy..it got to the point where I was always initiating the conversations so i got that "annoying" feeling and i stopped texting him first..we didnt talk for about a month and he finally text me. in his messages he's always saying "i really want to hang out sometime" or "you should text me sometime" but he never asks to hang out..or never texts me first unless i go a while without texting him. i feel like he wouldnt say those things like "message me sometime" or "i wanna hang out" if he didnt mean it..but i still feel annoying being the first one to contact him.SO, the question is..is he interested in getting to know me? or not?
View related questions:
facebook, shy, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): thanks everyone. i should've added that when he tells me to text him..i do. and sometimes, not always but sometimes he will reply but not really keep the conversation going?. why tell me to text you if you're not going to have a conversation with me. you're advice is great. most of my friends are like "just talk to him, just talk to him" but..its kind of hard to just spill your guts to someone that you really dont even know that well. i appreciate it! i'll probably be talkin to him about a hanging out next weekend perhaps!
A
female
reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (31 January 2011):
Yes he is most probably interested in you. Because else he would not give a damn whether you text him or not. But since you are not texting him he is worried that's why he tested you back.
I think maybe its you who should take the first step. Why don't you ask him to hang out with you? With him you guys will get to know each other better, you might also figure out whether he is interested in yOu and most important of all he would be more confortable with you after you hang out with him after....say 3 times maybe..Then maybe that might overcome his shyness :)
Try it out and do let us know what happen.
Hope it helps
:)
Princess Aunty
...............................
A
female
reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Maybe he is unsure that you like him, or feeling unsure or under pressure because your aunt started this. I would stop texting and just phone him. Ask him straight out, for example - would you like to go out on Saturday for a coffee at Joe,s place ? listen to his reply, see how quickly he answer's, if he answers yes quickly with excitment in his voice then this is positive however if he hesitates then it might not be so good..I know you might be rejected however its better to sort it out than have it drag on in wonderland.Though he does sound a bit gutless to me, is this the type of man your really wanting? Maybe just let it go?
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I would say that he's probably interested in you. Speaking as a very shy guy myself, I've always felt very intimidated by women. He may feel the same, and may feel that he is "bothering" you if he texts/messages you first. If you want to get to know him better, you'll probably have to make the first move a lot of times until you get him out of his shell. If this bothers you then he's probably not really your type of guy.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I would say that he is probably interested in you, but speaking as a very shy guy myself he's probably just intimidated or nervous to talk to you. I'm the same way actually, I usually never talk to women first. Same goes for texting, if they don't text first I usually just assume that they're busy doing something else, which may be what he is thinking as well. You'll probably have to make the first moves lots of times if you want to get to know him better, if that bothers you then he's probably not the right guy for you.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Id say this guy is unsure of wanting to meet up and my guess is because of his own shyness and nothin to really do with you. I, myself, can be shy, however if im interested in a lady she damn well knows it lol and i make sure she knows. So, if he's interested he'll be more assertive I think. Be patient. Chances are he just needs to get to know you a bit more personally and then he'll be more comfortable in meeting. Good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): No matter how shy he is I don't think that it would hold him back from arranging to meet up. And don't feel you have to take the lead, it takes two. I get the feeling he is luke warm about meeting up. But I would stop texting him, if he texts you fair enough I wouldn't run after him.
...............................
|
