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writes:I went out on a date with a guy, the date went really well. We talked, laughed, he told me I looked nice, and at the end of the date we hugged and he told me we should definitely hangout again.I didn't want him to feel as if he had to be the one to text or call me, so I texted him, we had a nice conversation.My question is: he interested? Does he like me. He hasn't tried to contact me since I contacted him. I thought it would be curtious of him to do so. Should I ask him to go on a second date? Since, he did ask me out the first time? Because I hate playing "traditional ways" but I also don't want to text him so much and seem clingy. The date was Thursday. I text him Sunday. Since then we haven't talked.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (20 March 2013):
 don't initiate dates with men. I know what feminism will teach and i'm sure that crap works great in theory. so does communism. If you intiate the date then how will you now if he would have on his own. It makes you appear desperate and easy to get. Don't do that. I may have had my heart broke a couple times but I never chase a man. They DON'T like it. it is a primal thing. They must initiate the date and conversation. It is what it is.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (28 February 2013):
 Ok so a second date has already been arranged. Then I agree, a text confirming the time and place is appropriate. Send him one firming up those details and see what happens.
Your original post gave me a different impression. How long had you known this guy before your first date? This is someone you met online? The common flurry of sweet nothing texts may not be his style, particularly if you've only met recently.
I recommend caution, not panic. It might turn out to be just fine.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 February 2013):
 so tomorrow is the next date?
some contact to confirm the date and time and place seems to be in order.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe texted each other Sunday and he did reply back. I asked him if he would like to hangout and he agreed to next Friday. I met him know so I will wait for him to text me now. We agreed to hangout, and I feel I shouldn't have to be texting him. Though he knows I just started school and he works graveyard shifts so it is a bit of a strange time schedule between us since we are both up and sleeping at different times.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (28 February 2013):
So he did respond to your Sunday text?
My honest opinion is he isn't that interested. He hugged you when the evening ended, he offered a non committal statement about getting together again and even referred to your date as 'hanging out'. It all sounds platonic to me.
He hasn't initiated any contact since and only responded to your text.
From what you've described I have no reason to suspect he is extremely shy so the only other explanation is there is no chemistry on his end.
You had a nice date and parted on a good note. File this under 'history' and set your sights elsewhere.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (28 February 2013):
 Just send one text saying "hope your week's going well, wondered if you fancied going to (x) on Sunday afternoon?". It's not overly keen since he said he'd like to hang out again.
Good luck!
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (28 February 2013):
 If you don't want to text him so much and seem 'clingy', then just send him a simple text message saying "I would love to see you again. Can we set a date?" or something along those lines.
If you didn't make it clear to him on the first date that you DID want him to contact you, then he might think you're not that interested in him and he's a bit afraid to contact you.
Well if you want to know if he's interested, just ask him on a date. No need to ask him how his day was, or anything else. Then you will have your answer.
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