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writes:So, Im 18 and My Boyfriend Is 20, we've been together 2 years but i just don't know if he loves me anymore.. he tells me he does but would rather be out with his friends than spend time with me, he always seems to be on his phone which is making me very insecure and suspicious, i also have other reasons to not trust him such as, when he was out not so long ago i asked where he was and he was in another girls house with all his friends, i often get upset over these lies this makes him angry because i'm "upset over nothing", this then results in an argument. i know that if this doesn't stop soon then there will be no us. i need to know if he's cheating on me? and what to do to help my relationship from falling to pieces? thanks X
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reader, AngellicaWaters  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 I think for him this relationship has run it's course. If you have communicated your feelings with him (which you should absolutely do calmly and kindly) and he still acts like this, he isn't going to change for you. A decent man will put more time and effort into a relationship with you. One important thing for you to consider when moving on is this, different people have differing ideas of how much time they should spend with their significant other in a relationship. Women often want to spend more time because they cut themselves off from the things and people they enjoy outside of their relationship and do no have anything else to fulfill them outside of the relationship. This isn't healthy, of course. You should absolutely have your own interests and friends apart from your relationship. It isn't healthy either to spend too much time outside of your relationship with friends or staying too busy with hobbies/work etc either. When in a new relationship make sure you have the same needs where this is concerned. Find someone who wants just as much relationship time as you need. Compatibility is very important in making a relationship work and it seems this is a way you and your boyfriend just are not compatible. I hope this helps you and I wish you the best in finding someone better suited to your needs.-Angellica
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 September 2009):
If he's not cheating, he's very tempted. A guy who'd rather spend time with his friends at another girl's house than with his girlfriend isn't a guy to bother about. I don't think you're going to be able to save this relationship, because he's not ready to commit. Instead, let him go, go out with some of your girlfriends and have fun. Let your heart heal, then when you're ready, get to know better guys. There'll be another.
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