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writes:Hey,I have been in a long distance relationship for 11 months and 3 days now but will be back to my year and 8 month gf in less then a month what i cant stopthinking about is if things are going to blow up in my face i mean i love her and she loves me but I just always get the feeling that somethings going to go wrong for me, that she might cheat on me or when i get back ill find out that something happened that she never told me. I trust her but being away for this long gets you thinking alot.I want everything to go back to the way it was before i left!So what im worried about is if after all this time apart something will happen or ill find something out or that When i get back we will see eachother differently and wont see the same person looking back at them...can anyone with long distance relationships tell me if they felt the same way about cheating or something possibly going wrong or the feeling that you might see eachother differently after beign apart for so long??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): i am currently in a LDR but going back home in a few days...i sam ehad the doubts and fear that something might go wrong...and in fact something did went wrong but nothing about cheating...my gf decided that she does not need me in her life she is fine with or without me...she does not rely on me anymore...but at the end of everything she still misses me and says she has feelings for me...and wanna give it another shot when i am back...so currently we are still apart and we are not talking as much as she feels its a chore talking to me everyday...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): It is easier said than done to maintain trust in a LDR... it all depends on the communication... there can be no room for suspicion, i know because i have been there. I still do not know if i had the right to feel how i did but i decided a LDR was simply too much for me in the end... i figured i was alone most of the time anyway but yes, i loved the person and had we been closer it may have been a different story.
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reader, elitzabeth  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 I on the same situation, I am currently on a long distance relationship. We are 2&1/2 hours apart by plane. It is normal to have all this insecurities and worries on your mind, but if you two really want to keep this relationship it all comes down to trust. You have to do a lot of talking on the phone. Talk to her and plan visits. Is she coming to see you or are you coming to visit her. I go to see my boyfriend twice a month and we talk on the phone a lot.
she can also have the same worries about you. You are at risk too. You could meet someone at school as well as she can. That is a risk for long distance relationships; but hey!!! It is like a test for the relationship. But, you do really need to communicate a lot. hope it helps .. good luck
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (3 September 2007):
 Hi there. I'm kind of who you're looking for. Althought I am no longer in a long distance relationship, but I have 2 years of experience under my belt, so I'll see if I can help.I think it's natural to have these fears in the back of your mind, but you just have to look at it as; you trust her. Why would she cheat on you if you will be back together sooner or later. If she loves you enough, she will wait for you.. I wish mine did, but that's another story.I would say it's doubtful that anything will have happened. If it has, then that just shows that she was obviously wrong for you.Long distance relationships require honesty, and if you don't live up to that, then things will never work out.Best of luck to you!
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