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writes:Dear Cupid.! Is a single 16 yr old who kisses 2 or 3 guys at different times considered easy? i personally think not but alot of people disagree with me so i want your opinion please. Remember she's single but she messes around with ALOT of guys. Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Sunshinee':)  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Sweetheart, you have no need to worry about being easy. Your young and you're single. This is your time to have fun :) Just make sure that it is just fun. Never lead anyone on and then drop them, cos that's not cool. People often think that kissing or having sex with a few guys but being single is wrong, but it's not. You might meet someone that you fall in love with and stay with forever and that would definately be considered to be a good thing. Just make sure that you never lose respect for yourself. Always do what you're doing because you want to, not because feel pressured to or because you have a reputation for doing it. Just enjoy yourself and be you :) x
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Messing around with a lot of guys is considered easy, but 2-3 guys are not considered to be "a lot". 10-20 guys and we are talking a lot. 2-3 is not even a handful. It hardly counts. And if it is about one guy a month it doesn't matter, but if she kisses several guys during one week for example.. that would be considered a tease. "Easy" isn't really quite the word either, as "easy" is defined as a girl/woman who has sex with a lot of guys. Kissing is more of being a tease.
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reader, Rosy +, writes (27 August 2010):
She may not be easy as she is young, but if she is so free to kiss guys who she isnt with maybe in the future, when she is ready for sex she will be sleeping around? Its very hard to change habits, so just tell your friend to be careful as some guys will assume she is sexually available and expect it from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): No, not "easy" as such - I'm assuming you don't just kiss any random guy, because there's a word for girls lke that!However, whilst it may appear harmless to you, consider how it affects those around you:Do you know how the guys you kiss feel about you? They might really care for you and will be very hurt when they discover it was just a way for you to have fun.Maybe one day you will get into a relationship with a guy. So how pray, will he know that he's really special to you when you've constantly been kissing other guys.Sure, kissing is really nice and can be alot of fun also. But you need to remember that kissing is supposed to be something special that you share with someone who really means a lot to you to show that you love them, and it can hurt others if you just give yourself away like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): I have only had three sexual partners in my life time(i know we're talking about kissing here, but this is for future reference;) Two of them were boyfriends and one was a one night stand that happened years ago. I still greatly regret it. Point is, just like caringguy says, yeah you have your repuatation to consider, but also the way you're going to feel years down the road. I feel like I wasted part of myself on a guy I don't even know. But that's just me. If this girl thinks she's the kind of person that can handle having had multiple partners in the future(kissing partners aren't as serious, I guess) then I'd say take Caringguy's advice. Go for it, but be safe and discrete.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 August 2010):
I would say this.
I personally don't think there is a problem with people having fun when they're single. More often than not, it's a good thing because you learn about the opposite sex, meaning that as you grow older you have a better understanding of what your partner will expect. Plus, it's just good to have fun.
However, society still has a stigma, particularly about girls who have a lot of fun with guys. There are some other girls (such as those disagreeing with you), who clearly think it's wrong. There are also guys who won't be able to handle a woman who has a past where she has had a lot of fun with guys.
So, a woman has to be a bit careful because a reputation can follow her with a certain type of person. She can certainly go out and have fun, but it's best to keep it secret, and ensure that she's safe whilst having fun. For example, if a girl is seen in a club one night kissing one guy, then the next night kissing another, clearly she's going to get a reputation, just as a guy would for doing the same with girls. However, if she kisses the guy alone where she is not seen but is still safe, who's to know and who will care? No one. It's just about a woman having fun, but ensuring that she's safe and not being spied on all the time.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 If she keeps doing that, she might lose respect and then people might start talking trash about her. Have you ever though she might actually want something? Perhaps it's a self-esteem booster for her.I hope that helps.
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reader, Jeseh.  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 No kissing many people is not considerd as being easy engaging in sex is so no need to panic.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 I guess it really depends if it's a challenge or not.
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