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writes:Hello!Just wanted to know your thoughts. If a relationship has a high doom factor, is it worth pursuing? Would you pursue it? I met someone recently but he lives very far, not to mention he's at a very different stage of his life to me. Is it worth going for it, if you don't think you could really last. Thanks in advance! Reply to this Question
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (28 August 2010):
It's unlikely that I would want to pursue it. I've been in long-distance relationships before, and they're hard enough when they're temporary, but to start off right off the bat with long-distance from the beginning and for the foreseeable future, it just doesn't seem worth it when you spend more time apart than together.
That being said, it depends on what kind of person you are and what you're looking for. Plus, what kind of connection you and him have. If anything, keep in contact and get to know each other, but don't rush into tying each other down in a long distance relationship. High doom relationships most often lead to a lot of heartbreak, but there is the off-chance that they could work out. If you think it's worth the try and you can handle it, investigate with care.
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (28 August 2010):
 Please disregard the high doom factor IF:
1. you have feelings for this man
2. he responds with strong feelings for you
3. if you tell him to his face that you don't think the relationship will work because...(of the factors you think will doom this relationship), and he finds ways to work it out. Another words if you try to push him away by being honest about your feelings of high failure factors and he persists to continue and pursue the relationship than it's worth it.
There is a saying: "We put up walls not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down."
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (28 August 2010):
 Hell No, and No way no how, it's a waste of your time and his and will lead to doom....who want's doooooommmm in their lives? Unless you are running away from life.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 August 2010):
 I would suggest you make it a friends relationship and then see what happens from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): I dont know why anybody would want to go into a relationship knowing that it wouldnt last unless it was just for a fling
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