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writes:My penis is just shy of 6 inches long and 4.75 inches around - my girlfriend had a larger than average pussy - I can get 4 fingers in her when wet easily and she says she has had larger dicks than mine before - she reckons 7/7.5 inches long and maybe 6 inches around - I feel insecure about my dick although she says its fine (we all know FINE means fucked off, insecure, nurotic an emotional) and that it still makes her come but no matter how much she says all is ok I can't help feeling insecure.Other bed partners have said its small in the past and every girl i have been with says she has had bigger.what can I do to get over this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): Its not how deep u fish. Its how u wiggle ur worm!
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reader, jeffers1 +, writes (18 October 2010):
jeffers1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all the replies - very good and helpful!
I am going to march on forward being positive.
It seems that Men care more about this than Women - guess it was us men that probably started all this size business in the first place.....
thanks again for your support!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): people tend to label people with large vaginas as to many cocks or to many kids which is total nonsense as i have 3 kids and i am pretty loose yet i never had 1 vaginal birth and was a virgin when i met my husband so it will be of i assume a medical reason why she is loose down below mine was
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): I am so sorry you are so poorly educated at your age,putting 4 fingers inside your girlfriend does not make her vagina larger than average,vaginas stretch with any kind of instrument insertied and lots of lube women have babies and judging the size of a baby do you think it stays that size,just because she has had bigger than yourself in the past does not say you dont satisfy her,stop and think what your saying if she knew what you had said bout her vagina how insecure and worthless would she be feeling enjoy what you have some guys are not as well endowded as you my good sir
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Well... Size matters but not the way u thnk it does. Women arent actually lookin for the biggest penis out there.. Actually we just need one that fits us. So if u dont like the idea of a pump then mayb ur girl shld gt her vagina bak n shape! I wouldnt b down about it tho most girls get turned on by personality not penises.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Most women don't care that much about penis size. We don't have that many nerve endings inside our vaginas. It's all about how you can use your pubic bone to rub her clitoris or how you can add in your fingers and how good you are at using your tongue. Since only 25% of woman can even orgasm from penetrative sex, being good in bed really has to do with your tongue and fingers, not your penis.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (17 October 2010):
Listen to person12345. We dont really care about big dicks. I personally dont cum from vaginal sex- its only through oral and fingering. If you're able to make your girl reach orgasm before you do her, then she'll appreciate you and she wont care about your size or how long you last coz she'll already be satisfied. And slimshady is right: what you have is the average size. Large guys are rare. Please be confident because confidence is so sexy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): Well, for starters, it's not small. It's average. Average is somewhere a little below 6. Your girth is about average too.
Most women who have had at least half a dozen guys or more will probably have had a large one. I would say most sexually active women have had at least one large partner. I believe it is a bonus, but if it was such a deal maker, only big dicked guys would be getting laid, procreating, and then by natural selection every male offspring would be hung like a mule. SO it's ludicrous to assume bigger is sought out. I personally know one of my ex'es married a guy who was significantly smaller than me. I also know my current GF was with a nine incher before me, and she is neither loose, nor does she prefer that over me. THere were a lot of things about his size that she did not like and he was totally selfish in bed. Did it mess with me for a while...maybe, but while I'm not 9 inches, I am plenty to get the job done and she repeatedly tells me I'm the best. Maybe not the most intense from a length/girth perspective, but the best overall sexual partner. One of the reasons is I tend to her needs completely. She says I'm the only guy to bring her to orgasm. So if you are making her come, and she is OK with your size, then let it go man. Besides...if an inch more is the biggest she's had, what the hell are you worrying about? Be glad they weren't 9 inches or bigger. I bet most women don't remember a difference of an inch between partners. But they WILL remember a guy who lacked confidence.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (17 October 2010):
 What you can do to get over this is to stop asking your girl if she's had bigger penis's than yours because if she has been around she's had bigger she's had smaller.
Women don't fall in love with a penis, they fall in love with a man and although I don't agree with the previous post that it is all about your fingers and tongue or that most women can't orgasm through vaginal penetration, most women don't know how, or how to instruct their men to pleasure them in that way. Women are different.
Be open to instruction from her and everything will be just fine. Your size is certainly average if not even above average....but like I said not that many women are size queens, they appreciate gentle and good technique though.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 October 2010):
Most women don't care that much about penis size. We don't have that many nerve endings inside our vaginas. It's all about how you can use your pubic bone to rub her clitoris or how you can add in your fingers and how good you are at using your tongue. Since only 25% of woman can even orgasm from penetrative sex, being good in bed really has to do with your tongue and fingers, not your penis.
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (17 October 2010):
 You have to learn to except who you are to get over the insecurities you are feeling. You are about average for penis size. I have had bigger AND smaller so it depends on what you can do with it. Of course, it's a lie when women say it's not the size that matters, there is a limit on how small we will go. But your size seems perfectly adequate, I personally wouldn't complain. If you feel insecure because she's a little bigger down there, ask her to kegel exercises. That might make her tighter and more fit down there. Hope that helps.
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