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writes:hey,im 14 and i met this boy, ive known him for around a year now, and everday i just become more and more in love with him, he likes me to and hes told me that im way to young at the moment.what do i do,the age difference is 5 years. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): when you're young, age difference is a big deal. as you get older, it becomes less important. I'm sorry, but he's right, a 14 year old dating a 19 year old is a big deal, and could get him in trouble! but say a 20 year old and a 25 year old is not anything to think twice about. for now date guys your age and when you get older, look him up! if he said too young for me right NOW, he might be thinking the same thing :)
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reader, BigRuss  +, writes (17 October 2010):
Wait for him until you are old enough or at least legal, the poor bloke could go to jail if you did anything.
If you care that much for him, keep being friends until you are old enough and see how you and he fells then.
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reader, orange_sasquatch +, writes (17 October 2010):
Five years age difference puts him at 19 years old, which in my opinion is too old for you. First, he is an adult and you are a minor. That might definately be a problem. As far as I know, it is not illegal for an adult and a minor to "date" but anything more would be illegal.
Second, he is older enough to be dating girls in college. He should be going for girls his own age. And you should be going for guys your own age. You have yet to experience a lot about love, lust and relationships.
In my opinion, you should give up on him and move on. Being his friend is fine, but you should try and look for someone your own age to like. Even if you can't get over him easily, try going out with other guys and see what it feels like. Maybe you do love him, but you won't know till you get out there and try other guys on for size.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): i know it won't be easy cuz you are in love with him but honey the difference is five years,he's nineteen about to be a full fledged adult(don't worry i won't go on and on about it)i don't think that it's a good idea to pursue someone that old.leave him alone,man because if he suddenly says 'i dont care if youre younger than me' and some crazy/innappropriate crap pops off between you two and any SANE adult finds out about it,it will rip you apart from the inside out.trust you don't wanna deal with that kind of stress
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reader, Ven +, writes (17 October 2010):
He is 19 and you are 14, so dating you can land him in serious legal trouble.
I'm afraid you just have to wait until you are older.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (17 October 2010):
 He's right, you are way too young for him at your age. He's not interested in dating you. You have a crush on him and that's all. What do you do? Stop obsessing so much about this one guy. He is actually more attractive to you because you can't have him, people want what they can't have. He isn't playing with you though, he really does not want you. He likes you as a friend, may even think of you as a little sister and be protective of you.
Keep it at that, brotherly sisterly love...and you'll be just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): sweety u need to move on u dont want him to think ur desperate because then he will take advantage of u nd i know u dont think he would do something like that but a guy is guy nd trust me a 19 year old guy only has one thing on his mind
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