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writes:Ok. I am wondering about my situation. I have been casually dating this guy for about a two months. We talk on the phone..not everyday, but 3 to 4 times a week. I mentioned about a month ago, my birthday was coming up and on my birthday he called just to wish me a happy birthday. I am wondering, in what time frame does a guy know if he really likes a girl, or wants to just keep things casual. And if the time frame is coming up, what are some signs he might let me know he is headed in that direction? I am ok with casual dating, but I might be interested in moving to a closer relationship. Just checking!! Reply to this Question
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reader, TeaLady +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Never be the one to mention or push for being exclusive. The minute you get what you want after asking or hinting for it, you will wonder if he would have ever done it on his own or if you just talked him into it. The answer comes to you when you notice him distancing himself, resenting you and finally disappearing.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 hi
this is a tough question i was in a similar situation myself not so long ago (not with him anymore, it never got off the casual blocks)
it is different for every person. depends how many times you see each other per week, depends how well you get on, depends on your chemistry, common interests? etc is the relationship a sexual one yet? have you met his friends or family? are you dating others? is he? is there any work or other commitments in the way? are either of you recently out of a serious/long term relationship? have either of you been hurt in the past and maybe a bit afraid of getting into something 'heavy' at the moment? what are your social lives like apart from each other? do you both have full lives when you are not together?
as you see, loads of different factors come into play don't they, rather than just a matter of 'time scale'
if you are happy with a casual relationship yourself, don't worry, just take each day as it comes. when the time comes that you want to make a bit more commitment to each other, maybe ask him then. if you however want to know NOW if something a bit more 'substantial' is possible in the future, i think you should discuss this soon, to avoid wasting time if it turns out he has no such intentions towards you
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 As far as I know there is no linear measurement that "a guy" goes by to know if he wants a relationship. From my experience it's more about how I felt around a certain someone. If I felt she was open to the possibility then ok. If I felt she wasn't open to that then I'd stay friends/acquaintances. Are you doing or saying anything specific that would encourage him in the direction you want things to go? I'm just one man but most of the time I need to be "hit over the head" if you catch my drift. I hope this helped.
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