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writes:Though this may seem a little vague, what would you say is the biggest attractant for a man when it comes to the opposite sex? We know that sex is a primary need and desire, but aside from the physical part, what do most men look for or what is the biggest turn on for them in terms of searching for a mate? We all can think we have the greatest personalities in the world, and even question why the person we like might not be going for us. But, reality is there has to be something that really makes a man say, "wow I like 'x' about her. Clue me in guys...what do you look for? Is it independence, sense of humor, what? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): I like the naive, shy, sensitive and sweet girls, I don't give a damn about PC if people find my preference too traditional, my attractions gravitate to these kind of girls above all others, I just can't help it. These are mainly just my preliminary preferences, after that I look for intellect, at least up to a university degree level, if not or if I can tel by the way she talks.
It has to be a good mixture of all the characeristics I stated above.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): Same iterest religon,sports,tv-shows,life-in-general, hopes-dreams,and all the rest.Some want a smart woman that can work and go to there full protental.Others want a stay at home mom,the term could be mocheasmoe,A.K.A. mochoe a manly man.My turn on is probably a woman who is independent and who has a job and is doing what they wont to do for a living.Kind with the right words to say in any sercomstanses,funny and can let loose without even drinking.An explorer who wants to go and see the world and strong spirited.A woman that will say what she feels even when no one will listion.She'll be wise and like music, art,writting,and speaking.Someone who will listion and respond onistly.And a christain woman.But thats just me every ones different.With there own thing going on.Good guy or bad guy you'll never know with some until later and that a bad situation.
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reader, Tomas +, writes (4 March 2009):
A woman's ability to confidently express a thoughtful opinion without apology or excessive self-deprecation, but also without arrogance or excessive emotion, gets my attention. I think, now this is someone I'd enjoy spending time talking and listening to, and learning from. She conveys maturity, wisdom, and a self-esteem based on her values rather than others' opinions. She feels safe and inviting.
I'm also attracted by the ability to do something difficult, well. Speak another language. Play an instrument. Read Joyce. Shoot par. I think, here is someone who can do things for herself, who isn't expecting someone else to do all the work. She conveys ambition, possibility, a sense of beauty, responsibility, patience, and stick-to-it-iveness. A partner you could trust to build something with.
Humor is I think attractive to everyone, but different people find different things funny. Humor is often about breaking taboos and saying things that aren't supposed to be said. A shared sense of humor reflects shared values of what taboos are valuable, and which are absurd.
There are also things about ethics and humility that I think are more specific to me, that determine whether my heart actually wants to get involved.
But in general, I think what most guys (and gals) have in common is being attracted to people who are positive, accomplished, energetic, confident, smart, funny, and emotionally self-sufficient.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Honestly, there is no straight answer for this question. Every guy likes something different. Granted you can find similarities amongst guys, but no two persons are the same (entirely).
I could list for you what it is I look for in a girl, but I don't think that would really help you. Every guy could fill in the blank in "wow I like 'x' about her" differently.
Here's my honest piece of advice: keep being who you are and don't change too much for anyone. Someone will love you for exactly what it is you are without needing anything more or less. If the guy that you like doesn't see you for that, then no worries. You will find another whom you will love more for the mere fact that he can't think of someone better to fill the role you play in his life.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Hmmmm .. it is indeed a very vague question. It is like asking, "what do men like to eat" LOL
You will get dozens or hundreds of answers and probably they are all different :-)
My most recent ex told me that he melts when I spoke a foreign language LOL ... go figure! Another told me that my smile lit up the room. Hmmm ...
Have fun reading the asnwers though. I for one will be looking into this thread too from time to time :-)
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