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writes:well im 16 and sri lankan and in our culture, boyfroends and girlfriends at a young age is mmm frowned upon. Currently i am in love, i want to be with her and so does she, however im not sure to continue this relationship as if we get seen by relatives etc, it can cause issues in her life and mine. i don't know what to do :S Reply to this Question
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reader, tick-tick-boom +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Hey i dont want to offend you or your culture.
But i think it is important for people to experience love at your age for all good reasons.
If you tell your parents and they are not accepting you should stick up for yourself!
Really man, Your young you shouldnt primaraly focous on education i mean yea its important but youve got to be happy right?
It's better to learn lessons in love now when your young because it will save pain from when your older.
Good Luck! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): Yes hunny I understand perfectly, As long as you do what you are doing and thinking of both of your educations then keep it together love, You sound a lovely caring young man and she is very lucky to have you hunny so dont give up as long as it takes stick with it and one day you will be able to be together as you really want..WITH LOTS LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnaks for ur help, let me give some more details, i love my culture its not as if love is wrong or anything, it is just like at this age parents as any are more keen on education etc but this is stronger in asian societies, i love this girl and i want to be with her, the only risk is when we go out, gfor eg say if an aunty or uncle sees us, it like gives a bad name for the girl, (if that makes sense) and i don't want to ruin her life, however the chnaces of bein seen are very very low, so we can be together but i just don't like takin the risk of hurting her, also i wanther to concentrate on her studes also plus i have gcses very soon. thanks for ur help, i hope what i just said gives u a better understanding :)
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reader, clobear +, writes (12 April 2008):
 hi, well i dont really know much about the culture, but it depends how strongly you feel about this girl, if you love her then i say go for it, my parents didn't agree with my relationship as there is 7 years between us, but after a while they got used to it. however you dont want to fall out with your parents so just be friends until you can be together, hope this helps you darlin, xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): Hi Hunny
This is just a suggestion sweetheart could you be friends untill its accepted as then you would get to see each other and get to know each other better..You will both no how you feel but if its a friendship can anyone complain then hunny..Im not clued up on your culture enough to no if this is ok love....I no the legal age is 16 but the culture belief is a different thing when it comes to your parents beliefs...I hope this has helped in a small way love TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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