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writes:there is this girl who was like my best my friend but then she moved down to london less than a year ago. when we hung around i didn't feel a romantic connection with her i loved her as a friend but now she has gone i feel that i'm in love with her now she has gone. because she lives far away i would send her letters and she would say what is going on with her and she said one time that she has a boyfriend and i checked his twitter page to see what he says about her and i don't think he treats her very well as he posts some weired comments like he was at a football match with her and the only thing he could think about was a twix in her bag he said.she usually replies within a week to my letters but i sent her a leter a while ago telling her how i feel about her but not in a scary way and she hasn't replied since and i sent it about a month or two ago and i tried to add her on facebook and she hasn't added me and i know she has been on because my other friend has told me what she has said.she is about 13-14 years older thn me but i love her so so much and i have tried to find girls my age but they don't compare to her. i can't sleep and last night i couldn't all night and i tried to list all of the bad things about her in my head but i couldn't think of any and i just kept imagining her and her boyfriend kissing and i jst got so angry i started to cry so much please i need help on what to do fast please
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Hi,i loved a younger guy and he showed his love for 2 yrs.we didn't talk about love during these years.he knew that i am younger than him for about 14 yrs.although it was hard to me but i couldn't do any thing about my feeling .after 2 yrs. he changed his work place;we were working at the same place, and went away without any explanation.last November he went away and till now i want to know why he left me.
i can understand your feeling. my advice to you is that you should find away to talk to her.since you were friends and used to talk to each other in the same way you can talk about this openly.if the problem is your age you can assure her that it is just a number in our spirtual life and if it is something else you can understand her which gives you more relieves that makes you accept this idea and go on .
believe me most of our torture is due to that we leave our imagination and consuption rule us instead of searching the truth through direct question and conversation.
I hope that i could help you because i treated in the same way and till now i am suffering althoug your situation is much better than me becaus you are the man.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 October 2009):
I was in love with an older woman and it broke me too. But you can move on. I did. It'll take time, so give yourself time. In many ways, her getting engaged was a good thing, because she wasn't interested, but this way you know for sure that it can't be. Give yourself time to heal and when you're ready, you'll find a great girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit doesn't matter now people my heart has just been riped out as she is now engaged great now my life sucks even more now
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reader, SeriouslyStephanie +, writes (1 October 2009):
 You want what you can't have. She's older and moved away, so in your heart you know you can't have her and your head takes them signals as you want to be with her. I think you probably miss her company and friendship. You should arrange to meet up in a friendship situation, then talk to her about your feelings.
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