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writes:A few years ago I was going through a divorce and I had a good male friend helping me out. He is practically married but he isn't. They neither one want to get married. They stay together because of their children and they have been together since they were very very young and haven't been with anyone since then. I am friends with both of them and they both tell me how unhappy they are. I slept with him one night and now a couple years later we sleep together off and on. I know he loves me and I love him, but we are not able to be together and I am not sure what to do. we are best friends. I know that we can stop and still be frineds. I have dated people and I stay faithful when I date someone, but I just am hurting because I love him. I need help. I know that people are going to say if you two really love each other then why is he not leaving his girlfirend and being with you and I cant answer that. I have never talked to him like that. We just always say we can't be together, but I know how much we care aobut each other. I just need advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all of your responses...sometimes it is easier to her things from other peoples perspectives. I really appreciate it.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 What you are doing is not right. he has a woman and you want him because you cant have him and because he helped you and you are lonely. do the right thing and leave him alone, you will find someone else trust me, leave this guy alone, he has a family, heès not right for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): I have the same problem with a guy I love (but we havn't slept together as yet!) - he says he stays with his partner only because of their child - but still sees me from time to time!
Sometimes I wonder are these men really unhappy with their lives or do they just say it to keep us women hanging on?
Maybe - you should just let fate happen in due course! - If you two are meant to be together - it will happen!!
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reader, ShanL +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Ask him how he feels about you and her and then make your decision from that. If you all are friends you should consider her feelings as well as yours and his. I wouldn't say that he love you either of you because he cheating with you, but he's not leaving her to be with you. I know a married couple that is the same way and she was saying the same thing we're together because of the kids but you're still married......NO DIVORCE SO THEY'RE STILL MARRIED NO SEPARATION NOTHING!!!!!!!!!! BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT (NO ATTITUDE :D) BUT I WOULDN'T CALL THAT LOVE FROM HIM TO EITHER OF YOU TWO.
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