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writes:HiI've lived with my partner for 6 years. We have a daughter 4 years old. Last Christmas I proposed marriage to her and she said no.It's been a long year for me as i've not got my head around it.This year i'm thinking of proposing again. What should i do if she says no again?Why would she say no?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Did She give you a reason why she didn't want to get married? I wouldn't actually propose. But I would definitely talk about it! Is the relationship solid? Are there unresolved issues? If her answer was no last year and you say that it was a long year for you, that you have not got your head around it (I'm not quite sure exactly what that means) chances are her answer would be the same this time. I would just choose an average day when you are both in a good mood and try to talk to her about it. Get some answers to why she doesn't want to marry you. I would wait till after the holidays are over; also let her know the offer still stands and that she should let you know when she's ready!
Knowing as little as I do about the circumstances as I do, it is hard to give advice.
Don't set yourself up for disappointment and hurt feelings again. Just let her know you're waiting for her to change her mind!
Good Luck!
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reader, ShanL  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 HOLD IT!!!! Before you propose ask how would she feel about getting married since she denied you the first time THEN you try again this year if everything looks out. Maybe she felt as if you waited too long and was really shocked that you proposed to her and wnat to be with her...MAYBE YOU'RE A DREAM COME TRUE!!!
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 Marriage often bring stress, it's usually expensive. Some just don't fancy the marriage idea all that much. Maybe she's not a religious person, or in the same religion than you.
I wouldn't ask her again if I were you, even if you get the answer that you want, won't you feel like you've pushed her a little?
She knows that you want to get married. One day, maybe, she will come to you and say "Yes".
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