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writes:im 14 never been on a date,kissed a guy, or done anythingi really want a boyfriend or at least go on one date im going into high school for crying out loud! most of my friends have had at least 2 and when i tell them they find it surprising 4 called me a pure child when i told them i never kissed a guy! i just don't want to go through high school being all nervous i pretty much want to know if its weird and how to get over the nervousness! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): I'm 16 and never kissed a guy/ had a boyfriend! But you know I'm ok with that.
Is there anyone in particular you fancy or do you just want a boyfriend because that person will care for you? If there is someone you fancy then go after them - but make sure it's someone special. To be honest I'm going to wait until I find a guy I really want to be with - and then it will make that first kiss something really special.
I'd just advise you not to worry about it and just enjoy your life as it is. I know I am xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Seriously, don't worry about being 14 and never having kissed or done anything with a guy - I'm 22 and had my first kiss just a couple of months ago! My advice would be to stop thinking about how much you absolutely must have had a date or have done something with a guy before high school is over, because sometimes when you focus on something soooo much, it won't happen. Instead I'd just chill and go with the flow and be pleasantly surprised if something does happen, and if nothing happens? Well that's fine too. Try not to let it all worry you, because really, who cares how far other girls have gone with boys or whatever, we all have our own paths to travel :)And the nervousness around guys? It's totally not weird, just try and keep it under control (i.e. don't let it stop you from going out to parties or whatever), and remember that guys are people too! And a bit of nervousness isn't always such a bad thing!
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reader, CaliGrown09 +, writes (10 April 2009):
 theres no hurry. & its silly if you trying to kiss a guy just because everyone else has. it'll come when the time is right & that will just make it 10x better rather than doing it to get it over with. i'm 17 & i STILL get nervous around guys, its normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): 14 is too young for any of that if you ask me. Don't let what's going on around make you feel like you need to be further along in life then you are right now. I wasn't even allowed to go on a date until i was 16. Don't be in a hurry... please... When you get older, you will probably look back and be really really glad that you weren't like the other girls at school who were making out and crap in middle school. I'm 19 and i'm pregnant.. (waaay too young by the way don't follow that example).. and i can't imagine what i would do if my daughter came home when she was 14 years old and said she'd kissed a boy, or gotten her first boyfriend... ugh. i would go bonkers.
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reader, XxDefineMexX +, writes (10 April 2009):
 I'm 14 also.
im a bit more...uh...expierienced. not to make you feel bad or anything. but truly i wish i had waited for my 1st kiss. In a very complicated situation i made out with a guy in a bed with his girlfriend also in the same bed. talk about awkward. Now i'm with my current boyfriend and have had many many 'firsts' with him. i really really wish we had shared a first kiss becuase its very important and speacial so don't be ashamed-be proud that your saving it for someone speacial!
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reader, Mariela +, writes (10 April 2009):
 I think you shouldnt worry because everythinh comes when is time so you should just chill and try to make friends and maybe you can go out on a date but its not a bad think to be 14 and not have a boyfriend or been kissed this is a sign that you need more time that you need to grow a little more but just wait a chill things come when is time....Also remember dont be shy be happy talk with others and have confidence in yourself...
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