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writes:Im a 14 yr old girl and i recently had sex with my boyfriend who is 19. I have a feeling im pregnant because im suddenly having weird feelings, i dont know if im just over reacting. Im not sure what to do because my parents have said they would kick me out if that ever happened and i also dont want my boyfriend to go to jail for having sex with me. Im scared and confused, im trying to focus on school but its all i can think about. Please what do i do?
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reader, YouBrokeMyHeart  +, writes (29 May 2010):
 I am the same age as you are, I recently thought I was pregnant but I was majorly over reacting. I am on birth control now. I would advise you take the test and then if not pregnant go on birth control. If you are pregnant bring yourself to tell your boyfriend and then your parents.
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reader, Lil MissShewwy +, writes (19 May 2010):
Lil MissShewwy is verified as being by the original poster of the question i will get a pregnancy test as soon as possible :) thank you very much.
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reader, Cherry_Blossom99  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 I think you should take a pregnancy test regardless of anything in your bosy changing, you'll want to find out as early as possible xx
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reader, Lil MissShewwy +, writes (19 May 2010):
Lil MissShewwy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all your help. I have told my 2 best friends, but i havent told my boy friend yet. I have been thinking and i do think it is to early for me to worry and that so im stayign calm and will take it day by day. I appreciate all the help xx THANK YOU.
P.S i will take a pregnancy test if anything else in my body changes :)
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reader, daarling. +, writes (18 May 2010):
hi there, im around the same age of you and i can understand how worried you must be.first of all, you need to think straight. you need to purchase a pregnancy test (even a two pack if possible) just to be sure. if you cant afford one from your chemist or are embarrased, go to your local family planning clinic. here in the UK you dont need an appointment and you can remain annonymous, and best of all they HELP you. you may also need to get checked out for any sexually transmitted infections/diseases as they really can affect you long term.i do think you need to get a pregnancy test asap. i wish you the best of luck, and remember, your only 14, you need to figure out wheather you really love this boy, and if so, you need to take permenant sexual precautions if you wish to regularly have sex.:)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 May 2010):
The very first thing you need to do is get tested for pregnancy and STD's. That is the most important thing. Worry about the rest after you've done that.
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reader, Cherry_Blossom99 +, writes (18 May 2010):
Obviously everything that has been said by the person before me is right, and becoming sexually active is a massive part of your life. If you feel at 14 you are ready then it's not just a case of having sex - there are lots of other issues! But with regard to your feeling pregnant, don't worry this is probably just all nerves and your mind making you worry. I've had exactly the same thing before where i was so adament i was pregnant i was completely shocked when the four weeks came and i took a test and it was negative. So don't worry, take a test or just go to your local family planning clinic. Whether you go to your local FPC or the doctors, everything is confidential. Do you have any friends to talk to about this, make sure they are trusted friends, and make sure you can talk to your boyfriend too and share your worries. if he's a good boyfriend he will confort you xx
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 May 2010):
 Well how long ago did you have unprotected sex? Have you missed a period?
If it has been around 4 weeks since you had sex and you have missed a period then you need to take a pregnancy test. This will decide one way or another if you are pregnant. If it has been less than 4 weeks then you will have to wait to take a test - maybe visit your doctor and they will be able to advise you and schedule an appointment for you on the correct date.
I think you need to stop worrying for now - you cant "feel" like you are pregnant, symptoms are very rare in the early stages so it is probably all in your head. But learn your lesson from this please! Use condoms and birth control - simple as that. If you think aged 14 you are mature enough to have sex then you are mature enough to take responsibility for your body, your health and any future children that might result from sex. So take yourself down to the doctors, and ask for some birth control. There are a number of options and your doctor will be able to get the best one for you. Also use condoms to prevent STD's - you are going to need a STD test while you are at the doctors too because you could have caught something from your boyfriend.
Having sex results in babies and diseases unless you are mature enough to take action to prevent this happening. If you are too "scared" to see a doctor or cant be bothered to sort contraception out then you should not be having sex. You have brought this all on yourself, you made the choice to have sex therefore you made the choice to risk getting pregnant and catch a STD. So get yourself down to the doctor ASAP, get a pregnancy test, STD test and then consider your options. Fingers crossed you wont be pregnant and then you can discuss birth control.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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