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male
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anonymous
writes:My girlfriend states she is very satisfied with our sex life, and I am too, but I am worried about the future as we are considering a long-term relationship. I have a modest penis, nothing I'm ashamed of but definitely on the smaller end of normal, and I feel like it's not a great "fit" in her. Her vagina is certainly not as tight as my girlfriend in college (we're both 24 now), and I'm just not sure if this is her anatomy, something that just happens to women as they age, because she's had a lot of sexual partners with bigger dicks, or what? I don't mean to be gross with that, but that's certainly what my buddies would've told me in college about a "loose" vagina, and I don't know if there's any truth to it. Or it could just be that I have too small a penis to fit well with her, but either way, my concern is that this is going to be a problem down the road for us.I'm concerned that it's only going to be harder for us to have a satisfying sex life in the future once the newness of the relationship wears off. Is this a real concern or am I just being paranoid? I've always been a bit self-conscious about my penis size (who isn't?), so I think it might be in my head and this is just the way it is for all adults. On the one hand, I do last longer with her, which is nice for us, but again my primary concerns are what happens in a few years because my dick's not getting any bigger, and way down the road are we screwed because our sex life isn't going to be any good? Anyone with thoughts or experience in this realm?
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reader, vix100  +, writes (9 September 2008):
 If your relationship is otherwise good, you really don't have a thing to worry about. Penetration is not the most important thing in sex and perhaps you should explore other ways of pleasuring each other too. I am sure she is not bothered about whether you are bigger or smaller than her previous partners - it is the chemistry between you that matters, and although this naturally changes as a relationship develops and the initial excitement of a relationship wears off, if you are in love and experiment and keep your sex life active, your worries will pale into insignificance. Good luck for the future.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 September 2008):
How is it that it's so simple to believe that all men come in different sizes, but women are all supposed to be really tight.
It could be just her natural size.
Trust me when I say I have been with guys that are bigger than others and it REALLY IS what you do with it that counts.
Why are you so scared of the possibility that you could be great together? If you are finding excuses about the size of your genitals to split up "in case your sex life isn't as good one day" then there must be a problem in your head.
As long as you are both getting pleasure from it then really what is the problem?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, fortoner +, writes (9 September 2008):
your penis size, though important, is not the only part of a sex life. Many girls can't orgasm from penetration alone anyways... try suplementing with a vibrator, oral, something... Personally I think penetration is good, but not nearly the only good thing... talk to her, find out what she likes and be willing to experiment to keep her happy... there are plenty of positions that allow you to get deeper... i am sure you have tried some of them, but there are always more...
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