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writes: I'm worried about my ex wife, who has joint custody of my 13 y.o. son, moving to another state. She has started to date, and admitted one guy she is somewhat serious with was out of state. I hate the thought of my visits with my son changing. I need him in my life, as does she. But she is very inconsiderate of my needs, and I worry. What legal or other rights do I have? I have an attorney, but dont want to pay $300 for some general answers...just trying to get ideas on what others have done in this situation. I've heard in some states you have to get permission from the other parent and/or a judge to move more than a certain distance. Other arrangements are I'd take him for summers and school breaks...not appealing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Look, call your attorney and ask the question. Odds are that they will not charge you for a short call. They may have to look into your case, but you should have all your files (if you don't, shame on you- I've got two huge file boxes in the attic, and have no kids...).
Usually, this would have been negotiated as part of the custody. I knew a gal once who couldn't move more than some many miles of her ex, and it prevented her from taking a really great job - guess he got her back for having the affair...
Hopefully, your kids are worth a few hundred dollars!
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reader, BeautifulCapricorn  +, writes (21 January 2011):
she needs your permission for that
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 January 2011):
I am not sure, as I don't know how American law works - but there may be a law that you can use that means she has to stay in the state, as you suggest.
I would strongly suggest that you speak about this with a lawyer. Don't even risk wasting time if you think she will move.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Did you originally go to court over joint custody of your son. By law you are intitled to see your son as much as she is unless there is some reason why not. Therefore talk to her about your worries and ask her does she plan on moving. Tell her how much it would break your heart to lose your son. If she still goes ahead and plans to move away with your son then am afraid you will have no choice but to take her to court over this. Goodluck.
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