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writes:I've been split up with my ex for about 2 months now and she has started seeing someone else but whereas when we split up we talked all the time, now i'm lucky if i get a text replied to. The person she with now has told her not to have any contact with me plus she fell out with other friends aswell. I'm still in love with her and itmight sound like jealousy but i'm worried about her what should i do to tackle the whole situation?
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (9 August 2008):
 You're not worried about her, you are feeling rejected. It sucks but its over between you and eventually one of you was going to move on with someone else.
Stay strong and find someone new.
C xxxxx
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (9 August 2008):
 Have to say that I couldn't agree more than with the advice of the other Uncles on here.
It is always hard to see an ex move on with their life while you still have feelings for them but these are obviously unresolved on your part and this is what you need to address rather than carry them on into your future or any future relationships you may have. That wouldn't be fair on anyone new.
You are clinging to the hope that because she stayed in touch at the start that she should continue now. The new guy wants her to have no distractions and this is normal so don't be the piggy in the middle so to speak as this could potentially harm any friendship you may regain with your ex in the future.
If this new guy is as domineering as you say it may be a factor that could potentially be the downfall in the relationship. Don't bank on this though and don't think that if that relationship doesn't work out she will come running back to you. If you remain at a distance but always remain a friend then that is best.
I think talking to someone about this past relationship may be useful for you and you can always talk to someone at Relate on your own or an individual counsellor if you continue to struggle with getting over your ex. Don't let these feelings fester as this will not be good for you.
Get yourself out and about and be busy, moping at home is not the answer, get yourself out with your mates and have fun as you are still young and life is for the living not dwelling on the past.
Plan a break or holiday or just doing something you enjoy OK. Believe me it does get easier but just stay busy it does work honest.
Keep us posted as we are all here any time OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): She's your ex. You're history as far as she's concerned. She's distanced herself from you now she's got someone new on the go.
Why do you need to tackle the situation? She's moved on in her life and you should do the same.
Sorry to be blunt, but that's the way it is. If she wants to talk to you I dare say she's got your contact details. Leave her to get on with her future life. What you had is now the past.
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