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writes: Hello everyone, I really hope you can give me some insight into this issue that I am having. I have been with my bf for 3 years now but two years before we got together he was with another girl for three years. They lived together, he supported her and in the end she sort of cheated on him. At this point he left her, spent two years being single before he met me. In the two years he threw away everything to do with her, wrote a book about how to get over an ex, left his job, started working for himself and just completely changed his life around. He rarely mentions her but when he does there does not seem to be any bitterness and he has never compared me to her. On the rare occasion that he does speak about her its just random details such as recounting facts or a story and usualy its only if I ask. Nothing really suggests that he is not over her but I need to know how long it takes for a man to get over a significant gf who hurt him? I have never been in a relationship before so I am not entirely sure how long these things take. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey everyone, thank you for your responses. To the last female poster who has been in a similar situation to my partner, I guess I can understand that- he also said that it was a huge relief to finally leave. Thank you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): Well, I moved away from my family, friends, a scholarship, and everything I knew to come up to Seattle and live with a guy. We lived together for a year, and I have to tell you, nothing was easier to get out of. He cheated on her numerous times by chatting with girls online and texting them and chating with them on the phone. Near the end of him living with me my apartment began to feel like a prison, and I hated being there. He made me sick, and I felt so trapped. When I finally got out of the relationship, I was the happiest I'd ever been. And I found the guy I want to spend the rest of my life within only a few short months. Believe me, just because he lived with her, doesn't mean that he was entirely happy living with her. And when he saw an opportunity to leave, he probably took it with open arms. If he really wanted to stay with her and work things out, he would have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): It sounds as if your boyfriend is over his ex. No two people are the same when it comes to getting over an ex. Some can get over things remarkably quickly while others take years. And its not uncommon for some to never really recover. Everyones different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, thank you for your response quiet echo. I need to know s,o that I am not wasting my time and energy in a relationship in which his mind and heart is with someone else. I do feel that he is over her, but I just cannot understand how if you live with someone for two years and share your whole life with them, how you can just move onto someone else after only a few years? This is my first serious relationship and I know that if it broke up I will never really fully recover and a part of me will always love him in some way.
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