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writes:my best friend use to sleep with this lad, and he fancies me. we got together last sat she said she was really happy for me and shes not bothered about him no more, but shes told one of our friends that shes bothered, but she has already got a boyfriend, one of his mates. the guy that am with treats me really well but didnt treat my best freind well. what should i do?
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (15 September 2007):
 i went out with my best friends ex once, and it wasn't until we split up that she told me how hurt she was. it's never a good idea because your friend probably confided in this guy about everything and now you're with him, she's worried about what you'll share. friends are for life, boyfriends come and go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): youre aged 30 -35?? you talk like you are all teenagers, i think its you thats in the wrong you shouldnt be with your friends ex. At least until you are absolutely sure that she is over him. friends ex's (even if they were only sex buddies) are off - limits. just because it was a casual relationship doesnt mean that it didnt mean anything to her so its insensitive of you to hook up with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Whats the problem? if she is happy with her boyfriend then why not let you be happy? She is seeing this guys mate? she must get around. Go for it girl!
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reader, towapa +, writes (12 September 2007):
 No, she lied to you... Of course she's bothered about it! She's going to feel like you betrayed her, even though she smiled and told you she's happy for you. Maybe she doesn't want to loose you as a friend.
I think you need to talk to her and get a straight answer from her. Yes, she may have a boyfriend, but the past doesn't get pushed to back off the mind, does it? You also need to dump your bloke, because if you was a real friend, you'd do that for her... Remember friendship is a valuable thing that you don't find everyday.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): If she is your best friend then i wouldnt of gone out with him. Friends stay together forever but blokes come and go. I can understand just how she feels. My friend did that to me and we never stayed friends, then she finished with the bloke and we still arent friends. Get rid of the bloke and get a one that is or hasnt been connected to any of your friends.
take care
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Ups,touchy....But what were you even doing with your best friends ex?If you ask me,you should turn back time and don't get together with him or don't stay friends with her.No matter what kind of guy he is,if he treated her bad you should not even tell him 'hi' when you see him. Dunno,that's what I'd do cause in I think friendship is more important than relationship and I guess you know the whole situation the best so you'll be able to decide on your own. Good luck with it
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