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writes:I met my online friend last week which was amazing after being friends for a year. We hit it off and ther was a real connection both of us very attracted to the other.He has messaged me everyday since and we both miss each other so much already.But then last night he messaged me several times but I wasn't in, his tone changed and I was very hurt by his comment."I hope in my heart that my feelings don't grow anymore because this is destroying me a bit"What does that mean? Is that a brush off?I messaged back that I had hoped his feelings would grow like mine have. But no reply! Reply to this Question
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (15 October 2014):
 It sounds like he thought you were deliberately ignoring his texts and he was hurt by it. Now he's getting his own back by not replying to you.
His behaviour is rather childish.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 October 2014):
 No, it's not a brush off.
You were not answering fast enough for his tastes and he is saying : Ouch, I hope I do not get to like you even more that I already do , because as of now it already HURTS me a lot when you don't pay me attention fast enough ".
Total drama queen , if you ask me ( yeah I know you didn't :). But if you like this kind of OTT vibe , he's your guy.....
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (15 October 2014):
 He wasn't getting replies from you in a timely matter in his mind. He is very into you. When he wasn't getting replies back from you he started to worry, then he realized how into you he is. Which probably scares the crap out of him.
"I hope in my heart my feelings don't grow anymore because this is destroying me a bit."
He already is crazy about you. Your lack of quick replies had him wound up already, if he fell for you anymore he doesn't know how he could handle it. This isn't a negative statement. I'm sure he will reply back to your text. It seems like right now he is being pessimistic and slightly dramatic, but it's clear he likes you quite a lot.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (15 October 2014):
 I read it as" these feelings are becoming very intense and are making me ach for you." or I guess it could mean my feelings are becoming confusing since I already have a love. Wait to see how he responds.
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reader, jls022 +, writes (14 October 2014):
Maybe he is talking about the distance? As in he is finding it hard having feelings for you when you can't see each other often?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 October 2014):
 Does he already have a GF? Or do you have a BF?
The only way I can see his words making sense is if you two CAN NOT be together for whatever reason, distance, other partners, whatnot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2014): The way I would take that statement is one of two ways. One, he's had his heart broken and is afraid it will happen again. Two, he thinks his feelings for you are getting too strong, and more like obsession which is unhealthy. The fact he said 'anymore' means his feelings for you have already grown.
Either way, it's nothing you did wrong. Give him space. He doesn't know what to do right now, which is why he hasn't replied.
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