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writes:i like my work colleague a lot.but i not sure if he likes me or not, we work in a bank but on different departments.sometimes i look around and see him looking at me but not sure if he like me..... i have been working there for 3 months now and he hasn't made any move so maybe he's not interested ? how can i tell? what are sings? Reply to this Question
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (15 October 2014):
I would say that this colleague probably doesn't fancy you if you've worked there for 3 months and he hasn't approached you in anyway over that time. He may find you attractive (pleasing to look at) but that's a far cry from wanting to get involved with someone. He may be married or have a girlfriend or even be gay - you simply don't know at this stage.Most of the time, if someone fancies you, they will attempt to get to know you by talking to you. If they're shy, they will at least attempt to get close to you in some way...Signs to look for?1) They always say Hi when they see you2) They stop to chat/banter with you when they have the time3) They seem to be interested in your opinions and what you like when you have time for a longer chat. (Rather then just banter)4) They sit with you (or your group) during their breaks, staff briefings, training sessions etc.5) They leave work at the same time as you and walk out with you or use the same lift6) They take their breaks at the same time when they can manage it and they'll try to take their breaks in the same place as you7) You're forever bumping into them at the photocopier or the drinks dispenser or the shredder.8) They ask you whether you're going to be attending a works event (e.g christmas party) and encourage you to join in if they're going.9) They will spend time at works social events talking to you10) They will be keen to work with you on certain projects if their job description permits it.If YOU want to get to know more about HIM, why not employ some of the above tactics and strike up a conversation?
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reader, missy_25  +, writes (15 October 2014):
Before you do anything else, figure out if he's married or not. You don't want to get involved with a married man. After that, if you like him why don't you start talking to him about work (nothing personal) and see how he reacts. DON'T chase him, in the end you'll get hurt. I know because I did it. It hurts when the guy suddenly avoids you. I was doing all the initiative to have meals with him alone, or go out, calling him. He was always responsive and teased with me a lot at work. in the end he told me he likes me but now he stopped and I don't know why but I think he got tired of me. I'm probably the only one hurting. I've left him alone since. Good luck!!!p.s. My guy wasn't married but had a gf who he claims he's really not in love with, so I took it as an ok to still spend time with him. Maybe in the end, he decided he wants to be with her instead of me. Too late, I am already in love with him and now still dealing with the pain.
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reader, batman_under_her_wing +, writes (15 October 2014):
Yeah usually when people like you they will look at you a lot of but this isn't always the case maybe smile everytime you look at each other and see if he smiles back or maybe say something to him or ask him a question like how is your day? And it might progress from there. I hope it works out in your favor! :) ~batman
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