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*mButterFly
writes:i am a very actrive female and all my friends boyfriends and husbands try to hit on me. I dont come around and that is the reason. It makes me feel good that i am beautiful, but i dont like the people who i get it from. I have modeled some in the past and have been in many music videos therfore i am very popular everywhere i go but what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, ChristineAvril  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 You are obviously so far up yourself that only the soles of your shoes are visible, but please don't worry - time and gravity will cure the problem for you soon and then you will miss all of the attention.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (30 April 2010):
 You've obviously got it, but do you flaunt it? Because if you do, people assume you're looking for/open to attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): u mite have the wrong end of the stick...they r probably just being friendly.
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reader, It's all be okay +, writes (30 April 2010):
I expect you won't like this reply - but friend's boyfriends and husbands do not "hit on" their
partner's friends just because the friend is good looking.
Are you sure you're not giving them the come on? Flirting? Acting like you want them to come onto you?
Your message sounds very much like this might be the case....
"I am a very attractive female"
"It makes me feel good that I am beautiful"
"I am very popular everwhere I go"
I'll tell you something - people are not popular for their looks, but because they are a nice person, who treats their friends well, and are genuine, kind, thoughtful and generous.
The fact that you don't say "as well as being attractive, I'm a very genuine, kind and interesting person" makes me think that you value how you look enormously and don't seem to value much else.
In answer to the queestion "what should I do?", I'd say to spend more time thinking about yourself and others as fully rounded people, and less time congratulating yourself on quite how attractive you are.
Just remember that your looks will not last all your life.
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reader, rcn +, writes (30 April 2010):
 When you accept popularity, you accept what come with it. I'd recommend ignoring those who make the advances, be yourself and live for yourself.
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Be rude to them when they hit on you, let them know they're being a**holes. Then, after that, spend time with your friends and ignore their significant others. Give them little or no attention and just enjoy your friends.
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reader, goowes +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Be safe!! I have the same problem, and the older I get the more aggressive men get and I have a man. I've been stalked, chased, gossiped about. have few women that will talk to me, men can only look at me for 3 minutes and then get glossy eyed and sex is all left in their brain. Now my guy is unhappy because he is sick of the leering and lude comments. I don't even care about sex. I'll be watching to see if anyone can give you info. Just be safe!!
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