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writes:Am I worryin bout nothin? My bf calls me daily (2x a day sometimes) and the other night..on thurs we were talking n he had to call me back. He never did (sometimes he falls asleep so I figured that's what happened) anyway - I didn't get a call the next day either..and that afternoon I saw him on facebook briefly. So I said hey and he signed off a few min later (dunno if he saw the msg). So I called 10 min later but got the machine. I know he had a lot to do that day including classes that afternoon + evening..so maybe he was on his way out and didn't have time to call me.that was Friday. Saturday + sundays (today) he gets his kids and we don't talk until they live. They're lil ones.we have plans to get together possibly when they leave tonight or definitely tomorrow if anything (we were on good terms the last time we talked..so I have no reason to think negative I guess). Anyhoo.. even though I'm sure he'll call..I constantly start thinkin negative..like what if he's ignoring me or doesn't wanna talk to me anymore. I'm worryin bout nothing right? How can I learn not to worry. I trust him.I know he likes me..but the negative thoughts creep in. I take anxiety medicine to help a bit...but I've been screwed over a lot..and I would love to just relax and not worry bout silly crap
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (20 July 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question i do carry on w friends etc/other activities or hobbies... but i always have time to worry - i never get distracted from worries lol .. and thats horrible.. so from now on im goin to try and learn to relax and just enjoy..and not worry about him er i mean worry that he's disappeared or somethin negative..
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (19 July 2010):
 I'm glad to hear he got in touch and that you were indeed worrying about nothing! It's quite true he wouldn't contact you twice a day if he wasn't interested - but at the same time, hopefully you'll realize now not to take it too personally if you don't hear for a day or two - ya know, he's got his own life and all that - AS DO YOU!
So stay involved with activities you enjoy; friends, movies you've seen interesting book you read recently, etc. This will not only distract you from worrying, but will have the added benefit that when you do talk or get together, you'll have something of interest to discuss with him.......always a "plus"!
And yes, I know from personal experience how easy it is to worry over nothing! Still and all, give it your best shot!
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (19 July 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhah yeah im a dork. he msged me tonight asking how i am and such (he was just busy with his kids)..we had a convo and everythings fine of course. man i feel like an idiot for letting myself think the worst. i really wish i could just stay positive.. and i constantly tell myself..if he didnt like me he wouldnt call me 2x time a day, talk about moving in together or wanna see me..
thanks you guys for the responses.. i def was overreacting and i definitely need to relax. he even tells me i need to relax lol ..but its soo hard lol. one day at a time i guess.
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reader, alien invasion +, writes (19 July 2010):
 First off, you need to trust him. Second, you need to be 100% sure about your feelings towards each other and third, you need to call him and be honest with him! Ask him why he hasn't called you and let him know how you feel about it.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (19 July 2010):
Yes, I think you are worrying over much. He's most likely just a bit busy.
I know its easy to do that: I stay away from reading up on various ailments because I can easily let my imagine run away with me, LOL!
I talk once a week on Skype with a very nice guy who attends the same church I do when I go there twice a year....some weeks ago he was offline for several days, so I began to wonder if he'd blocked me - turns out he hadn't, just busy - as indeed I am myself, (of course I didn't ask him!). "I" sometimes don't log in for a few days.......today, at my Mother's retirement community she told me one of the "ladies who works in the head office" met with the residents and said guests are really supposed to stay in the guest room only seven days!! Fortunately, someone spoke up and said "But what about Joan's daughter who lives in America? It would be no time at all for her." Now, I'm booked for six weeks (made sure to check - my mother checked - with the supervisor that nobody else needs the room during that time. Was there five weeks in the spring. Mother said I should not concern myself with it, it'll probably not come to anything.....so I'm choosing not to......but knowing me, I COULD -and start thinking of other places to stay.....but as they say, "don't go there"!
And that, my dear, is my recommendation to you!!
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reader, Thegirlwiththepurplescarf  +, writes (19 July 2010):
Hey 3
Well first i think every girl has an instinct about these kind of things. Think about him, do you trust him ? Do you think hes really trying to avoid you or is he really just busy ? Honestly i think you should try and relax i no its hard for you but just think before anyone can love you, you have to love yourself. Hope this helps.
The girl with the purple scarf. xx
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