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writes:to put it bluntly, my gf beleives a stranger over me.i met a girl at my local pub one evening, we struck up convo she asked me about myself etc, threw in that im with my gf a few times, this girl kept talking to me etc, we exchanged e-mails at the end of the night.the next day i went onto my e-mails this girl had added me, and added me on facebook too! i accepted thinking theres no harm in accepting as i had met her and want to make a friendship.later in the day i get an abusive text from my gf i asked what the matter was and she claimed someone told her i had been cheating, it took me a while to find out who had lied to my gf, it was the new girl. why?i see my gf tuesday to talk, there is little proof i havent cheated, but what can i do? my gf will definatly have less trust in me if i convince her of the truth..i havent cheated, iv not been able to get in touch with the stranger since i first asked her what the big idea was...please advise me
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2017): You never exchange anything to contact the person again. This shows your girlfriend that you was interested in her.
I wouldn't trust you again and break up with you. Men are so stupid. Next time a lady wants to talk to you walk away. Lie and say your girlfriend is meeting you and that you can't be near another girl then just leave the place. If this lady was a male or a old lady would you of exchanged you email? Hell no! You was attracted to that lady. You can lie all you want. You just sowed your girl friend that you took that strangers email because you knew your girlfriend may not be the one for you. I hope she dumped you. You will cheat on her because you wanted to get to know that stranger better for a reason. If she was ugly you never would of given her your real email. Confess you was caught by your Facebook.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): read the other post, the OP said he didnt flirt in his reply, he also stated that he let the girl know well in advance he was with someone and she said she just wanted to be friends anyway, he denies flirting and he says he was just making friends.
i do not see any problem with him talking to a girl with the mindset of just to make friends, opposing sexes can be friends.
as for the op: you have done what you can, this woman sounds malicious and spoilt, women like this need a good slap and a wake-up call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Ok well this teaches you a lesson: Don't play with fire. Flirting with girls in a bar, then getting their e-mails and adding the on Facebook is not ok if you want to be respectful to your partner. Apologize to your girlfriend, tell her exactly how it happened and don't do it again. Also consider giving her your Facebook login/pass so that she can see your account; this will assure her that you have nothing to hide from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): origeonal poster here,
this girl didnt flirt with me, she spoke to me like she would a friend. when i let her know that i yad a gf she told me she just wanted to make friends n have someone to talk to, jmc930 i dont let girls flirt with me if i notice it lol
anyway iv taken this girl off facebook, asked my gf to look at the add date and told her a host of other reasons why i havent/couldnt have cheated.
why do people do this? it was out of the blue aswell so i couldnt tell my gf sum1 will lie about me... very disheartening when i just want to make friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): You honestly thought that after you told the girl at the pub you had a girlfriend and yet she continued to flirt with you, that it was OK to exchange contact information? Did you really think she just wanted to be friends and nothing more?
Furthermore, you found out that she's the one who told your girlfriend that you're cheating? It's because she was going to do anything she could to make sure that she could have you, and she thought you'd never find out. Get pub girl out of your life, immediately. Block her on Facebook and on your e-mail account. She's manipulative.
Explain the situation to your girlfriend, calmly. Although you didn't cheat, you encouraged a girl to flirt with you, which can also hurt your girlfriend's feelings. You will have a lot of apologizing to do. Buy her flowers and be sincere about your apology. Hopefully everything works out. Stop encouraging girls to flirt with you and exchanging contact information. Not OK!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): This new girl seems to be jealous and must think if you break up with your gf you will be able to date. The point you should make very clear to your gf is that you were trying to make a friend not a new partner and you should say you were wrong for exchanging email. Not that you cant make friends but meeting someone at the bar and exchanging info is a bit shifty. From your gfs point of view, why would this girl lie to her, unless it was true, you might want to send this girl another message saying you dont understand what impression she may have recieved but you were very much not interested in her, in that manner. Possibly print these messages of rejection and show your gf, show her that you have deleted this girl from your life and will have nothing to do with her. Your gf is feeling insecure and hurt, its normal. Just do your best at reasurring her and hopefully it all works out
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