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writes:Hi am Josian....and i want it to ask you a question about love.I have a crush on a neighbour, but i am to shy to tell her that i love her. Please - do you have some advice for me?Thank you.sincerely Josian.
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reader, °Ale°  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 That's a pretty name :)
The best way to spill the beans is to be charming yet straight forward. Next time you two are chatting try to find a window to invite her out for coffee or go on a walk and find things you have in common and act very excited when you do find those things! and at the end of the date/walk/ chat tell her that you would love to get to know her on a more serious level and that you're very excited to have found someone that is as wonderful as her. Something close to that.
Good luck! let us know how it goes
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reader, talker  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 You have to overcome your shyness because if you don't, you'll never get the chance to create something truly wonderful. I would suggest that, although endearing and incredibly romantic, you should not tell her that you are in love with her. First, try asking her out for a date. See if you get the vibe that she likes you too because trust me, you will know. She'll stare longingly into your eyes and give you "the look." Find something that you both would enjoy and just ask her casually if she would be interested in going there with you. If she asks if anyone else is going, or invites someone else (preferrably a girl), don't sweat it and don't worry too much about it. Continue to be there and hang out with her and then you should start getting the vibe back, when you've asked her numerous times to hang out with you, if she likes you back. Then make your move and go in for the kiss. After that, ask her if she'd like to be your girlfriend. Of course, if that's what you want. ;-) Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): I probably woundn't rush in to the "I love you's," just yet...It might creep her out. It would me. And you don't want the stalker image. Fist, just trying being her friend, and have casual conversations, and them perhaps things will progress. But, please don't rush into the LOVE YOU'S....You will get the reputation of the perverted neighbor....Nice and slow is the way to go.
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reader, MissRosie  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 Good answer Gecko. Definately ask her out for coffee, get to know her, and to hell with shyness!
Rosie x
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reader, pinay23 +, writes (7 July 2008):
 you should probably try to be one of her closest friends and then tell her you love her. but before you tell her you love her give her somehints. like put your arm around her see her almost everyday or call her. but make sure you dont annoy her.okay
you can always ask for more advice if you want just message me or if you have aim
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Awww thats quite sweet.
I'm assuming that you have actually spoken to her before. I suggest you talk to her some more, get to know her, cut the grass or something. Just let it out. Ask her out or something.
Your obviously worrying about this. Just think about whether you can actually fix why you are worrying. So in this case, you are worrying because your too shy to tell her you love her. Question whether you can do anything about it. You can because you can tell her you love her. You just need to 'bite the bullet' as so to speak. If you can't face your fear, don't worry about how shy you are because you can't do anything about it.
I really suggest you just rip the plaster off, anything just get it done so you can expand on how shy you are for the rest of your life.
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