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writes:Me and my boyfriend broke up about 3 weeks ago i am 16 very soon and he's 17 in a few months. The last time we had sex was when we were going out and now im 22 days late. I haven't told him as he has just gone on holiday and i didn't want to ruin it for him and it might complicate things as i don't know for sure if i am pregnant and he tells me he still loves and wants me. I'm so scared. My mum would proberbly kick me out and my best friend doesn't seem to understand what i'm going through. She just keeps telling me "Your period will come" but it's not like me to be so late. I'm too scared to take a pregnancy test. I need someone to talk to that will understand or help. Please...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks everybody for all your answers. i will be in town at the weekend and i will get a pregnancy test and do it with my friend. Thanks so much... xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): I know you are scared, but I think you will continue to feel this way until you get a pregnancy test done. It will either be negative, in which case you can breathe a sigh of relief. Or it will be positive. But at least you will know, and you will be able to deal with the situation. The not-knowing must be the worst part.
You can get a test done at your GPs, or with the nurse. They will be able to talk to you and offer support and guidance if the test was positive.
You say that your mom would be angry, but maybe she wouldn't be. Okay, she might be unhappy at first, but would she really kick you out? She would be concerned, but would probably also want to support you if you was pregnant.
Good luck, I hope things work out okay. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Being scared and not taking the test is not going to make you any less pregnant or any more pregnant.
You need to know this type of thing ASAP.
If you are, then you can start working on the problems that come with it
but if you're not, then wouldn't you rather know that than be stressing over somethign that isn't there?
The first thing you really have to do is take the test. You need to ease your unknowing. Until then, there is no point in getting panicked about all these other things.
Once you find out and if you are, then come back here and ask the quesitons that are officially relevant to your life. We will be glad to help further.
~SY.
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reader, athenas  +, writes (11 June 2009):
well your 22 days late you didnt say if you were on a birth control method if you were, that may be a reason sometimes you dont get a period for being on a method oh youll just be spotting but the best advice is getting a pregnantcy test because if you are you have to decide what you whant to do. When i found out i was pregnant i was under age too and my dad would tell me if you ever come out pregnant i will kick you out when i gave him the news he didnt. I know your scared but your their daughter it will jurt them but they wont just leave you on the streets. Just go to the clinic and get a test done at ;east then you will know if you are and you can get ready for the next step
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (11 June 2009):
 Dear, it would be a lot easier for us to help you if you knew for sure what was going on with your body. Where I live we have a sexual health centre that's geared toward teens. Your community might have one too. Your best friend doesn't really understand because she has probably never been in this situation.
Guidance counsellors are trained for this sort of thing, and they usually offer a good ear. You should really try confiding in someone who's older because they might understand more.
PM me if you want to talk.
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reader, Smellyellie +, writes (11 June 2009):
 First thing is first you need to go and get a pregnancy test. This is the only way you are going to find and put your mind at rest. Second thing is you may need to talk to your mum about things. She can help you if you need it and im sure if you talked to her about it like a grown up then she will understand abit more. If it turns out that you are preganant then there are options that you can follow. If you dont want to speak to your mum about it then maybe a trip to your local GP as they will do you a free pregnancy test and everything you tell them will be held in confidence.Remember you are still young and if the result turns back negative then remember to use protection in the fututre as this will stop any unwanted stress like you are feeling now. Let me know how things go for you. Ellie x
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reader, sunshineey +, writes (11 June 2009):
Wow...first thing you need to do is get a pregnancy test and answer the question to your first concern. As for your mum, I am a mum and I strongly believe we want what is best for our children. Open up to her and be honest, but first take the test sweetheart! That is the first step here.
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