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writes:So I'm 14 and i want to lose my virginity. But I'm also extremely scared. I don't really know what I'm scared of but I am. So I just wanted to know if there is any tips people can give me on this. Like why am I so nervous and scared to lose my virginity? That kinda stuff. Please help!! Lots of Love Miranda? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ldu  +, writes (29 September 2010):
Your scared and nervous because your not ready yet...simple as that. You might THINK that your ready because all your friends have had sex and you feel like the odd one out...but trust me if you have sex when your not ready it can really mess up your entire perception of sex, love, and men. Oh yeah one more thing....YOUR 14!!! sheeeeezzzzzzzze
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Do you realise a lot of things can go wrong during sex whether it's your first time or your thirtieth time?
I think your age is not the most important thing to consider here. It's whether you find a guy who will treat you with respect during your first sexual experience.
NEVER have sex with a guy who mentions "anal" to you! Most guys who want to give women "anal" have no class and are disgusting.
Take care madam.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): im 15(just turned july 31st) n i felt the same way u did wen i was 14( LOL.) i wanted sex because my friends do it. now i dnt wanna hav sex(IM STILL VIRGIN). it makes u look lyk a ho. b/c da boy tells everyone. so wait!. true story:: happened last year 9th grade. anyway so theres this guy Tavon. he a manwhore. well he had took my w my best friends virginity in a abandoned house in the back of the school. she sed it hurt n he was rough n big down there(8in). bad experience... he told everyone. they picked on her the whole year n she regreted it. but they dnt care now. we all good:. but still wait!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): hey i know how you feel. i often wanted to give my virginity to the guy i was going out with. and i felt really nervous about it. i was 13, and i'm 16 in 2 weeks. i can tell you honestly i'm glad i didn't. i know it seems like you really want to give it to the one you care about, but please wait, sometimes you'll find he's not deserving of something as special as your virginity. probably the best desision i've made so far.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): I am 15, I wanted to lose my virginity for along time. But I waited because the person that I know I love was who I wanted to lose it with. In April, sure enough..I lost it to the person who I truly love and I feel most comfortable around. My advice to you hun, wait till you find the one you truly love and want to be with. I wanted to lose mine so bad because I wanted to get the pain overwith. But in all honesty, Your virginity is meant for you and that special someone who you love and know will be there the rest of your life...Its something that brings you too closer, and there is more love in the relationship.
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reader, RennieGeek +, writes (26 September 2010):
You are too nervous and scared because you are not yet ready. This is not something you can take back once it is gone. You are very young yet, and have plenty of time to have sex and there are lot of things about having sex that you need to be prepared for and have knowledge of.
Condoms do not prevent the transmission of STDs from lesions on areas not covered by condoms such as Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) / Gential Warts or Genital Herpes (HSV2). Teens are also more susceptible to contracting STDs (even with condom use) than adults.
You can also get pregnant while using birth control, and you can get pregnant with condoms as well. I have even heard of people getting pregnant while using both.
Think this through. It sounds like you're not ready yet, and that's ok. Nobody is going to look down on you for still being a virgin. I was until I was 19, and I know a few guys who were quite good looking but chose to wait until they were in their 20's.
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (26 September 2010):
 Trust your feelings. Someday it will be the right time and you will be ready. Losing your virginity is a big deal. Save it for someone, sometime and someplace special.
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (26 September 2010):
 Cause your not ready. I lost mine at 14, and i thought i wanted to lose it, but i was scared too, extremely scared.
I did it and have regreted more than anything in my whole life. I wish i waited till i was 16, and im not just saying that. I duno know you, therefore i dont really care. This is advice, to stop future pain and regret.
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reader, paulomiller  +, writes (26 September 2010):
Just don't do it...wait you be older to lose your virginity with the right guy that loves you and you him..don't go after friends ...Men always want to have virgem girl...all of us don't matter what country we are or what age....virgem woman (I mean really virgem ,,no oral sex or etc) is really important to a man....don't waste your virginity with some piece of guy that you won't expend your life together...wait!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): You're scared because you are not ready. Losing your virginity is not something you should rush into. Everyone is scared about losing it, which is why you need to find the right person who you are comfortable with. May i ask why you feel the need to lose your virginity? I know you probably know it's against the law but i'm not going to go on about that. Personally i think you should wait a couple years until you are emotionally ready and have found someone because your virginity is not something you can get back and you do not want to regret your decision later.
I hope this has helped x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): Because you are still a child!
Having sex now would be very illegal, you are physically not ready for it and that is what you mind is telling you by giving you fear.
Do yourself a favour and get this out of your head! Enjoy being a young teenager!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): because you're still a kid. I know you don't like hearing it, but it's true. If you're feeling this uncomfortable about it, it would be best to wait
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