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*ikestence
writes:Hello everybody... I've been with my girlfriend for 10 months now and we've already been through so much together... But, I think starting to lose my feelings for this girl but I'm so scared of breaking up with her because i don't want to hurt her and all her family lives me too. What should I do? Any advice would be great thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Mikestence +, writes (16 April 2009):
Mikestence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell me and my girlfriend talked about alot of things and she didn't approve of the break thing and she was yelling at me and stuff and a stood my ground! I told her she needs to stop treating me so bad or I'm going to leave her then she calmed down and we talk about it and stuff. I think were getting better. Thanks everyone
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reader, mervy  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 Panic attacks shouldn't be used as leverage against you. They are nasty but not life threatening, speaking from experience. Unfortunately the only way you are going to get through this is by being strong against her, and standing your ground. I think she's using the panic attacks to guilt you into staying with her. If she really cares she will run with this break for you, and it might even make her realise how innapropriately she's been treating you. It's gonna be tough, but hope everything turns out for the best. Let us know!
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reader, Mikestence +, writes (13 April 2009):
Mikestence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanks everyone for giving me advice I think every single one of you are rite. I think I do need a break but how can I tell her that? Every time I say something about breaking up or anything along that line she has a panic attack and she starts crying and I can't take it so I just give in and let her have whatever she desires and I let her walk all over me!
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reader, mervy +, writes (13 April 2009):
wow that comment was really below the belt, that's just downright nasty. Maybe she's feeling the same way? I definitely think that you need to have a break from this relationship - obviously neither of you are having a great time in it.
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reader, Mikestence +, writes (13 April 2009):
Mikestence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell she always gets on my nerves and she's says stuff that she know I don't like... For example she talks about my mom and how she left me when I was a baby she says stuff like oh well maybe it was a good thing she left you and she has been really mean lately. We fight so much I can't take it anymore!!!!
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reader, mervy +, writes (13 April 2009):
definitely agree with trying to spend time apart. Even if you're losing "feelings" for her, are you still "friends" with her? Maybe try doing some different things together - things you haven't done before. If worst comes to worst, a break may be what's in order to truly test the relationship. Remember, it doesn't have to be permanent. Good Luck!
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reader, Matt269 +, writes (13 April 2009):
 are you sure you are losing your feeling for her. try spending some time apart. if you still don't miss her or have any feeling for her then you should just break up with her.
you are going to hurt her eventually if you don't have feeling for her. better sooner than later.
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