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writes:Im so skinny and i hate it.Im a 15 year old girl, 5ft4, and weigh about 6stones 9pounds.I hate being soooo skinny. I eat sooo much and im stil the skiny stik i alwayz have been.People can make such horible comments.1)Erghhh, your arms are so skinny2)Thats disgusting..And many more, i'm too imbarrasesd to write.Please give me tips on how to put on weight.Thank You. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Thank you for the advise.
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Especialy Blazee, that last sentence really made me smile.
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reader, ryandude18 +, writes (25 November 2008):
 well you are underweight.
the worst thing you could do is too start trying to put on weight by doing what unhealthy people do, some people are naturally skinny but if you are underweight you should really talk to your parents about it. the internet is good for information but you cant beat face to face
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 I think you have had some good advice from the aunts here; I just want to emphasize that your reaction to these hurtful comments can help you stop them. I think it is perfectly appropriate for you to say to someone who says silly or hurtful things to you, "That was a very rude comment and you may not realize how much comments like those hurt my feelings. So please stop, and think about what you say before you insult the next person." Walk away with your head held high.
And I think your best bet is to learn to love your body. We all hate aspects of our bodies, and going through adolescence and growing is the the WORST time! Spots! (We call them pimples or zits here.) Oily skin! Hair in funny places!
Just eat right, keep your muscles moving with some exercise, don't tolerate disrespectful or nasty comments without calling the insulter out, and remember that obese girls get funny looks and comments too.
Take good care of that body! You'll learn to love it as you grow older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): I have gotton these comments all of my life. I am 5ft 9 and a dress sz 8. I have been slim my whole life and can pretty much eat what I want without putting weight on.
People are so offensive to you if you are slim - it amuses me at times. It is deemed acceptable to say to a slim person "Oh you look ill....you need to put some meat on you....you need to eat a steak.." etc etc yet if you were to say to an obese person "Oh you look ill....you need to stop eating" then that would be deemed rude!
I detest the way people put down girls who are slim calling us stick insects and making ridiculous comments about sz 0. Perhaps there are people who are trying to be aneorexic who are sz 0 - which I have a problem with. But people who are naturally sz 0 such comments are hurtful and VERY insesitive! Believe me I have had them all! I detest also this label of "real woman" for bigger girls, as though being a sz 8 makes me less of a woman!
Anyway listen to me - do not worry about putting weight on, if you are that size naturally then accept it and like it. When I was 15 people used to make comments to me about my legs - my legs are very long and slim and cos of it I wore baggy combats till I was about 18! I was too ashamed to show my legs.
So I know how you feel, I was exactly where you are. Today I have managed to carve a successful career for myself in fashion modelling and I am happy with who I am. And I realise the girls who are shown in the magazines for having best legs etc have the same size and length legs as me so it cant be as bad as those people tried to tell me all those years ago! And now yes of course I wear skirts and dresses etc!
There is nothing wrong with being slim if this is how you are naturally! If anything enjoy it! You are not part of the population that are having to monitor their diet and put your body through yo-yo weights which I think is more dangerous to loose / put on weight too quickly in short periods of time. Love yourself and enjoy the fact that you are lucky enough to eat whatever you want and get away with it! Most people are envious of that! Being slim is ok - and the next time someone makes a comment at you for being slim, my advice is to look at them: from my experience they are generally NOT in a position to be telling anyone else about how they look or to put weight on! And just smile to yourself at that fact, alot of these people are just too insecure and jealous - and because they cant say something nice they resort to saying something negative instead.
And as you get older you will start to appreciate it even more when you see alot of your friends stuggling with weight and diet when you can carry on eating whatever you want! Dont worry you will be ok! :)
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Hi,
I always had the same problem as you. My metabolism has always been super high and I stayed a skinny stick although eating more than all friends and all my brothers even.
I wish people could understand that it is just as hurtful and bad with nasty comments for skinny people as it is for overweighted, but unfortunately that's not how it is.
Eat well and healthy and try do daily training in form of walking, biking and the like. It will build your muscles and make you more hungry to eat. And if you afford the gym, take Pink's excellent advice to go ask them how to best build your muscles in a healthy manner. You can also ask your doctor to make a thyroid test. They take a small blood sample from your finger and can tell if your metabolism is alright or need to be treated. In your age though, I would guess it is just alright and it is all normal to be skinny.
I know saying it will get better when you grow older is not at all helpful right now, but it is all the same very true. When you get older you will have a strong, healthy body that some of your today bullies could only dream of having. And all clothes will look great on you!
Take good care of yourself, hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): My daughter when she was your age had the same problem. She always complained how skinny she was, and how people were calling her names. Well, guess what now she is 22, this problem no longer exist. She is 5.7 and healthy 128 lb.
There are ways to gain weight, but you have to talk to the nutritionist about it. I hope some people here know more than me about this subject.
You still though want to stay healthy, it doesn't mean you have to start eating junk food. At 15 young people metabolize food so fast, some faster than others, like yourself. Wait few years, when your metabolizm slows down, then weight gain begins.
And about those kids that call you names, try not to take it personaly. I am sure they have their own insecurities. Trully happy people will never be mean to each other. Good luck
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reader, blazee +, writes (25 November 2008):
 you just have t kind of body, i know how it is i have it to so it was hard for me to put on muscle for me but i found methods and im sure you can too. just eat a lot, and as much as you can. eat every 3 hours, which is like 6 times a day and eat a lot, you will be fine.
besides, guys like skinny girls:)
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