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writes:Hi, I'll keep this short. I just don't know what to do. I'm about to turn 30 next week and freaking out! I am pretty (although look 19 which I hate, as no one ever thinks I'm 30, so never get taken seriously) Anyway I'm single after 2 very bad relationships in last 5 years! I've got no money, I'm broke all time.live with friends, would love to buy a place or rent own place but I have no money at all. I was working in pr and really enjoyed the job but the company was horrible and I was earning 10k less then all my friends. My ex told me to come a teacher, so after years of trying I finally got on a pgce to come a secondary teacher. But I'm finding it so hard, the work load and I'm enjoying it a bit but not loving it. I think about going back to pr, but then I think everyone think I've failed. And also would I even get a job! I wake up every day crying, all my friends got good jobs, earn good money and happy. Some married, with kids others got good careers. I have nothing. I keep holding in to fact that 30 is ok, still got 10 years to do whole meet someone family thing. I'm just so confused about what to do, carry on in course and be a teacher, just do the course and complete it then go back or or go back to pr now which I loved! But am I too old to go back to it. I have 4 years experience in it! Help! Xx
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Some great answers from the others. I agree with DrPsych, a PGCE would be a very useful qualification to have. Even if you decide you don't want to teach afterwards, it will give you transferrable skills that employers will recognise as a PGCE is a well recogised qualification. Also you've started so you might as well carry on and finish then it won't have been a waste of time, what you've done so far.
You can cahge careers any time. You are never too old to do anything. You just have to believe in what you can do and the skills you have learnt over the years. If you want to go back to PRing, go for it! You have 4 years experience and now brand new leadership and teaching skills from your PGCE that will make you an even better employee. Don't put yourself down, you have so much to offer!
Also remember that people are changing careers in their 40s, 50s, 60s, even 70s now! It is the norm for people to take courses and degrees as mature students now. And why not! Life is changing so much at the moment. People don't always wnat to stay in one job their whole life and why should they? Sometimes it can take a lifetime to find what we are best suited to. You can only try things out and take oppertunities until you can find out. ANd you are doing that with your teaching. So what if it's not the right thing for you, at least you tried it! At least you have got that qualification. It can only go in your favor!
Life is all about exploring who we are and getting through the best we can. Don't be so hard on yourself. Nobady is perfect, because who is to say what perfect is? There are so many different people with different views, isn't everyone right in their own way? Live your life your way and be happy with who you are. Don't feel you have to be a certain way or have babies by a certain age. If you want babies, you can make it happen. Believe in yourself, you deserve to have your dreams come true.
Good luck!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (4 December 2010):
 I felt a bit like you at 30! But once I got past the 30-something birthday blues I figured out that being a 30-something isn't all bad. Many years ago you were supposed to have set up a family life by this time. The reason was that women had the menopause earlier and life expectancy was shorter. These days people are having families later in life and changing careers several times in their working lives. I think a lot of people feel uncertainty as they leave their 20's behind them. You are not unusual in having no money, romance and career-uncertainty at your age. I know from what friend's say that the PGCE is tough. I think if you have started one then you should at least try to finish it and get the qualification. Even if you then decide you don't want to be a teacher then you have something to fall back on in later life. Jobs in PR are hard to find in the recession. If you find that you hate teaching children then you might be well-suited to training adults (further/ higher education) in public relations and marketing. A teaching qualification would go in your favour for this kind of work. If you want to get a home of your own then qualify as a teacher. You then qualify for shared ownership as a key-worker, and you might just land yourself the perfect pad at an affordable price! The Government run various housing schemes that require little deposit. You have plenty of time left to find Mr Right, have babies and buy houses if that is what you want from life. I didn't meet my husband until I was 33, and I didn't have my first child until I was 36! I am approaching the big 40 next year and I am still doing training courses, thinking about having more babies and moving house. My point is that you are never too old to go after what you want. You might not always get it, but there is no harm in trying!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 You are not too old to do anything. Good gracious, sweet thing!! You're barely 30! You've got like, 60 more years to kick around. There's no rush... you are your own worst judge.
You should do what you love. Who cares what others think? I'm sure nobody will think you're a failure - now you've got more experience and a great story about your adventures in teaching. So take a look around and see if there is any work available in PR. You don't have to quit your current job until you've got the next one all lined up. And just because you're employed doesn't mean you can't check out what else is available out there!
You've got friends, you've got health, and you still look young and hot. This is a hurdle in your life and while it sucks now, it is making you stronger. This WILL get better, I promise. Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (4 December 2010):
The best thing is for you to complete the degree, a guaranteed job is a good thing in this tough economic climate. Once you have finished, apply for both teaching and PR jobs, aim for PR. If you cant find any PR jobs, do a year of teaching and continually apply for PR jobs. More PR jobs will appear as the economy grows. As for the money, your salary will increase if you are good at your job, work hard and can prove you deserve a raise, which can come your boss or from a rival company. You must work hard and prove to them you are worth the extra money.Are you too old to go back to PR? Of course not, its all about talent, ability and work ethic.Renting your own place? No one can afford their own place, people only either live with partners so after you get a great PR job and find a great man, you will then have a place of your own but until then you will have to make do with what you have. Everyone has a period in their life when things arent going as they would like it to. But this is far from a grim situation, you have everything you need to succeed, now its only a matter of time before you have everything you have wanted.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Stop and look at your life. You have friends who love you and want to help you. You have all the time in the world to find someone who will love you and you have all the time in the world to start a family. Do not feel pressured to do all those things. My grandmother had her last child when she was 67 years old (She was a Taiwanese Aborigine, the chieftain's daughter and she had a lot of children.)
Do not lose hope. Anything and everything is possible. You do what you choose to do but do not fear your choice. Yes there are many things that may go wrong but what about the possibility of things going right? If you want to meet someone, go out and meet someone. You are still young and you are beautiful. Life can feel messy but what is a life without struggle? Now you have experienced what life has to offer, both the benign and the unbearable. Look up and smile again and wake up tomorrow knowing that with every new day comes a new possibility.
I hope that helps.
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